taken from The Muslim Woman mag. Volume 8, edition 1
I found this article really touching....
True Value of a Wife by Shaykh Abdullah Adhami
The Holy Prophet (SAW) said:
"the believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." (at-Tirmidhi)
By getting married, you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. from now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.
She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and your sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you, when you need help, she will do all she can for you;
When you haver a secret, she will keeo it, when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you; when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers, during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world, and you will be her whole world.
The best description that i personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Quranic verse which says; " They are your germents and you are their garments" (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 187)
Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other becuase they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.
The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanantion for these most amazing of all human feelings is that; It is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala , "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature" (Surah An Nahl 16:72)
Only our Almighty Allah in His Infinite power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of spouses. in fact, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is remaning those wjo search ofr His sighns in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as he says in the Qur'an, " And among His signs is this, that He cretaed for you mates from amongst yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts; verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Ar Rum 30:21)
Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honour their spouses until death do them part. love should never end and we do believe ther eis life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses. ( Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70)
got this email today.. had such a laugh !
A WOMAN'S HEART IS LIKE A CIRCUS
There is always room for another clown...
WHAT CAN ONE GIVE TO A MAN WHO THINKS HE HAS IT ALL?
A woman to show him how it all works!
WHY DO BLACK WIDOW SPIDERS KILL THE MALE AFTER COPULATION?
To stop the loud snoring even before it starts
WHY DO MEN LIKE TO MARRY VIRGINS?
Because they cannot stand criticism...
WHAT DO YOU CALL AN INTERESTING MAN WHERE YOU LIVE?
A tourist
WHY DID GOD CREATE MEN?
Because vibrators cannot mow the lawn...
WHAT DO CLITORIS, ANNIVERSARIES AND THE TOILET BOWL HAVE IN COMMON?
Men miss them all!
WHY DO SO MANY WOMEN FAKE ORGASM?
Because men fake foreplay...
WHY IS IT THAT ONLY 10% OF MEN GO TO HEAVEN
If all men went to heaven it would simply be hell!
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND PIGS?
Pigs do not turn into men after drinking!
WHY ARE MEN IN BED LIKE MICROWAVE FOOD?
After 30 seconds they are both done!
WHAT DISEASE PARALYSES WOMEN FROM THE WASTE DOWN?
Marriage.
WHY DO MEN HAVE A CLEAN CONSCIENCE?
Because they never use it.
WHY DID GOD FIRST CREATE MAN AND THEN CREATED WOMAN?
Because experiments are first done on animals before applying them to humans
WHY DO MEN LOVE INTELLIGENT WOMEN?
Because opposites attract
WHAT IS THE SMALLEST BOOK IN THE WORLD?
"Everything that men know about women"
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND FRUIT?
Fruit eventually gets ripe.....
WHY ARE BATTERIES BETTER THAN MEN?
At least they have a positive side...
WHY IS IT NOT POSSIBLE FOR A MAN TO HAVE A GOOD CHARACTER AND BE INTELLIGENT
AT THE SAME TIME?
If that were the case he would be a woman...
WHAT DID GOD SAY AFTER HE CREATED MAN?
I can perfect this creature....
WHY ARE MILLIONS OF SPERMS NEEDED TO FERTILIZE ONE SINGLE EGG?
Because sperms are male and refuse to ask for directions....
WHEN DOES A MAN LOOSE 90% OF HIS INTELLIGENCE?
When he becomes a widow...
WHEN DOES A MAN LOOSE THE REMAINING 10%?
When his dog dies...
