Thursday, November 15, 2007


I found this cool tag on ZK's blog and thought id also do it, just for fun...

1. Name one person who made you laugh last night?
My nephew

2. What were you doing at 0800?
having breakfast

3. What were you doing 30 minutes ago?
looking for some food to eat

4. What happened to you in 2006?
travelled alone for the first time

5. What was the last thing you said out loud?
sorry, you have the wrong telephone number

6. How many beverages did you have today?
mmmm water only :P

7. What colour is your hairbrush?

8. What was the last thing you paid for?
parking ticket at a shopping mall.. (yesterday)

9. Where were you last night?
At my friend's house

10. What colour is your front door?

11. Where do you keep your change?
in my wallet

12. What’s the weather like today?
a gorgeous summer's day

13. What’s the best ice-cream flavour?
midnight cookies and cream..

14. What excites you?
shoes, lots and lots of shoes ..

15. Do you want to cut your hair?
not right now, since i had it cut 2 weeks ago.

16. Are you over the age of 25?
yes :( :(

17. Do you talk a lot?
not as much as i used to, i think im quietening down in my old age!

18. Do you watch the O.C.?
used to..

19. Do you know anyone named Steven?
yep, steven in second yr biochem

20. Do you make up your own words?
not really..

21. Are you a jealous person?
never used to be, but i tend to get easily jealous recently..

22. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter ‘A’

23. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter ‘K’

24. Who’s the first person on your received call list?
no. is withheld, but the person had a wrong number..

25. What does the last text message you received say
from a friend thats leaving for hajj next week.

26. Do you chew on your straw?
no, never ever

27. Do you have curly hair?
unfortunately not!

28. Where’s the next place you’re going to?
i dont really know...

29. Who’s the rudest person in your life?
dont have any of those thankfully...

30. What was the last thing you ate?
Cadburys triple chocolate slab ..

31. Will you get married in the future?
hopefully soon!!

32. What’s the best movie you’ve seen in the past 2 weeks?

33. Is there anyone you like right now?
yes ... lots and lots

34. When was the last time you did the dishes?
last night after dinner

35. Are you currently depressed?
no.. ive been taking my happy pills regularly (and eating chocolate)

36. Did you cry today?
nto the last week.. gee, thats a record i think lol..

37. Why did you answer and post this?
Because Im bored at work, and i havent posted anything in awhile

38. Tag 5 people who would do this survey.
im not sure .. i think everyone has done it already, but if not: MJ, saaleha, fatima, R and BB aisha who seems to have gone awol...

Friday, November 02, 2007

Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to Shah Rukh
Happy Birthday to you

with lots and lots of love

Thursday, October 25, 2007

jealousy rears it ugly head!

what would you do?

I have a confession to make... i don't handle jealousy very well.. if fact, i don't handle it all... I never have, and i don't think i really know how to.. the reason being, i don't see why anyone should fight/argue/ with anyone that could be potentially hazardous to ones health, and so, i do what any person scared witless of being confronted by the outcome of incorrectness would do... i back off!!
i know, it may be a cowardly way of doing things, but my reasoning has always been, that if the person even thought it, then so be it.. they can have it.. until now...
ok, i just re-read what i wrote, and i am also confused, so don't worry.. i will explain..

see, i was once in a situation where a girl saw a guy, and she immediately heard bells ringing, and a choir singing, and on-the-spot realised that he was her soul-mate, regardless of the fact that he wasn't single, and made a play for him.. the result being, that he left his current girlfriend and is now married to the girl with the supersonic hearing... and all was well in their little fairytale world.. but, the consequences of that union, was that the other girl, was left to deal with all the lying and deceit that the situation had produced, and the by-product of that was she learnt not to care too much.. so she made up her own fairytale, and thinking that she was Rapunzel, looked her heart up, in a stone tower, so that she would never have to deal with a similar situation ever again... until now!!

A story along similar threads, only this time, it deals with a friend that this girl has known all her high school life.. who cant seem to get the point, and back off..

The story goes like this:
Cast: Ruby-Girl
Friend with intentions
Matchmaker friend I
MR Nice guy
Friend saw Mr nice guy about a year ago, and asked Matchmaker friend, who is friends with both girls, to set her up.. but at the time, Mr nice guy, was seeing someone, so he said Mr nice guy is already spoken for... until, friend bumped into ruby-girl and Mr Nice guy, on their first date.. Friend, being a typical sneaky chic, said nothing but emailed Ruby-girl the next day and asked if it was a first date she witnessed, and ruby-girl, being the innocent, friendly person that she is, said yes, and she was so excited, told her all about Mr Nice guy...
3 months later: ruby-girl organizes a girls reunion, and invites Friend along.. whilst having coffee, Friend asks all so innocently: so, ruby-girl, whats happened to the guy that i saw you with? and Ruby-girl, still being an oblivious fool, says: oh, things are fine, he met my parents etc. etc. etc... to which Friend says: oh, but wasn't he getting married to someone, cos when i found out, Matchmaker I said that he was taken... But, dumb Ruby-girl, didn't realise what Friend said, until later that evening, when she was analyzing with best friend all the fun that everyone had at the re-union...

one month later, post Ramadaan
friend emails Ruby-girl (again) and asks: so, any good news yet? or is it over with the guy, and at the same time, phones Matchmaker friend to ask about Mr Nice guy...
now, Ruby-girl is completely p&%*$# off with this chic, but Mr nice guy, finds the entire situation hilarious, cos to him, its a major ego boost, that this girl is still after him, (although she is subtle in her moves right now) and thinks that Ruby-girl should be flattered that someone wants the guy that she has, but All Ruby-girl wants to do is bash Friend with intentions head in.. and that is the first time ever, that calm, always in control Ruby-girl is freaking out.. for no reason at all.. cos Mr Nice guy, doesn't even remember Friends name(it's a complicated funny name) but Ruby-girl is livid... do u blame her ???

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

back by popular demand

As a not-so frequent blogger of late, the most flattering thing happened today..
Two guys that used to read my blog regularly, found me on facebook, and asked why i haven't written in such a long time.. (they also complained about the quality of blog posts , putting the blame on facebook, for slowly down the activity around blogland, to which i do agree, but FB is different.. cos its all about people that know/knew you at some stage in your life, and i don't know about you guys, but i cant always say what I'm thinking, for the simple reason.. people's feeling's may be hurt although sometimes they would be deserving of that!! i don't know if I'm making any sense.. but that's how i feel, aside from the fact also, that facebook is damn slow, even when you connected via Vodacom's 3G/HSDPA.. blah blah, for me blogger still rules!!! yay!!

As for whats been happening in Ruby's world: well, just to let you know

singleguy, i took the reply that you suggested and sent that to the loser, ending off with a suggestion that he jumps off the shortest cliff that he finds in his friendly city, and he replied my message by saying: ok, i understand... Ramadaan Mubarak... which really p*&%$@ me off.. but, i refuse to response... A loser will stay what a loser is!!!

re: Mr nice/awesome guy... what is it with men? i swear, sometimes they worst than women, with constant PMS... all was going well, to the point were my dad said that his family should come home with a formal proposal etc, and now he has cold feet.. and thinks that he needs some time to think, and wants to read istighara.. which is fine, i don't have a problem with that, but ... three months ago, when i read mine, he was the one that said he is 120% sure, and does want to read it !! so why the change now??? go figure !!! Sometimes i think my dumb plants that refuse to grow for weeks on end are easier to deal with than these stupid people that i seem to be constantly meeting... oh yeah, here is a question for u guys: when you go off to "find yourself" which type of rocks are you looking under??? I hope you have your searching glasses on at the time...

Friday, October 12, 2007

Eid Mubarak

wishing your family, friends and loved ones a HAppy and Blessed Eid-Ul-Fitr...
May allah accept all our ibaadat and forgive our sins.

Have a wonderful day..


Monday, September 10, 2007

the bloody nerve!!!

im happy.. Mr Nice guy ha been upgraded to Mr awesome guy in my eyes... so much so, that he came home to meet my family yesterday... (yes, it is that serious) and then, this morning, as i start cjhecking my emails, and facebook etc, i get a 'friend request' from none other than .... yep. you guessed it.. The loser guy!!! i know that it shouldnt bother me.. i shouldnt care, and i should perhaps just ignore teh request, but im pissed off!! what kind of fool does he take me for? it ended months ago! the last two times that he smsed me, i ignored it, and he still has the freaking nerve to search for me on facebook, and WANT to be my friend???

i want to send him a really sweet.. but nasty message, and him to go and *&#* himself, but i dont know what to say without sounding like I care.. he didnt know that i knew that he was seeing that other girl at the same time as me, and i want to ket him know, that i did know, and i dont appreciate being taken for a fool.. arggh, i wish someone could just hit the arrogrant prick!!! and to top it all.. he sends the request with the same pic that he sent to me (by email) before we met ? and the worse of it: (im still trying to figure out if its just coincidence or if he did this on purpose) but, i met him exactly one yr ago-yesterday!!!

p.s. any ideas on how i could reply to the loser?

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Happy Women's Day for tomorrow!!!

How to Make a Woman Happy

It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynaecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined!
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate


45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls


51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52.. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes


. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes


1. Show up naked
2. Bring food and beer

Friday, July 27, 2007

Happy Birthday to ME!!!

Its my birthday!!! and i will smile if i want to ...

i have an amazing day...and in my wise old age, i have come to realise, that i have family, friends, and loved ones that care about me, and have helped make my day extra, this year, i will not be making up any lists of events gone by, no crying over spilt milk, loser idiots that missed my boat, friends that betrayed me, and people that irritated my life.. No, this year, I am giving thanks for all the good that i have in my life. All the bad people and things that Allah has removed from my path, cos He alone knows what is good for us, All the wonderful moments that i have been blessed with, All the amazing people that have had the privilege of meeting over the last year (esp. all the bloggers, that started out as strangers, but have now become friends that mean so much).... All the good that I have managed to accomplish (and the rest that i will hopefully still accomplish), The good Health that i have been blessed with, the wisdom that is meant to increase as my years on this earth accumulate, and the lessons of life that i am still, and will continue learning till my last day... For this I am grateful... and happy ... and i will age gracefully.. with a smile on my face!!

Happy Birthday to Ruby
Happy Birthday to Ruby
Happy Birthday to ME
Happy Birthday to Ruby...

btw, i am now over the QLC hill.. I turned 26 today!!!

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

hey guys

hi everyone.. just dropping to by to say im still alive, not well.. but alive... hwas really sick in Durban, and came home even more sick, but im recovering !!! so, i promise to post soon...

btw, the blog meet was awesome... it was so good to place a face to all the posts that i read. Thanks Safs and Rae for organising it. I was just sorry that Zahira and the rest of the crew couldn't make it... next time i guess!!

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Saturday, July 07, 2007


Two important things have taken place today, the seventh of the seventh month, in the seventh year...

The first, was the naming of the new seven wonders of the world, which i have mentioned during the course of the week, ans the second is the Live EArth project, headed up by former Vice-president of USA, Al-Gore... Now, im sure many of you are aware of Mr Gore's efforts in the campaign reagreding global warming, the gentleman in question, even received an Oscar award for his efforts in this regard, for the documentary that he produced.. (and let me just add, that he looked really dashing when he went up on stage to receive the oscar), (i have always taken a liking to Al Gore!!)
Live earth is a 24 hour, 7 continent series of 9 concerts taking place on 7/07/07. It will bring together more than 100 music artists and 2 billion people to trigger a global movement to solve the climate crisis.

AnUnknown band In Antartica and thus far, unknown bans consisting of scientists, engineers and other researchers formed a band, and even the locals i.e. penguins, attended the concert.

In London, the concert was held at the Wembley stadium,In Hamburg:Germany, New York;USA, Rio de Janeiro:Brazil, Sydney: Australia,Shangai:China, Tokyo:Japan and closer to home, at Maropeng, at the cradle of Humankind, (A world heritage site!)

Each concert was opened by a recital of the Seven point pledge, which is as follows:


1.To demand that my country join an international treaty within the next 2 years that cuts global warming pollution by 90% in developed countries and by more than half worldwide in time for the next generation to inherit a healthy earth;

2.To take personal action to help solve the climate crisis by reducing my own CO2 pollution as much as I can and offsetting the rest to become "carbon neutral;"

3.To fight for a moratorium on the construction of any new generating facility that burns coal without the capacity to safely trap and store the CO2;

4.To work for a dramatic increase in the energy efficiency of my home, workplace, school, place of worship, and means of transportation;

5.To fight for laws and policies that expand the use of renewable energy sources and reduce dependence on oil and coal;

6.To plant new trees and to join with others in preserving and protecting forests; and,

7.To buy from businesses and support leaders who share my commitment to solving the climate crisis and building a sustainable, just, and prosperous world for the 21st century.

Hey Shona - TRRP

this is my favourite song at the moment... and everytime i hear it, i somehow think about you QDee... Maybe cos you told me about the song, before i even heard it... :) :)

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Update! Finally!!

well, its seems as though I've been firnds with Zee for too long, cos now, I'm becoming as sick-prone as he is... yep, i have conjunctivitis since Monday evening, and to my dismay, have been wearing my glasses *sob. sob sob*.. so, zee, i hope i don't burn myself with hot water soon ... just kidding, you still my on my best friends list *ruby winks at Zee***

okay,so, the much awaited update: Mr gentleman is now upgraded to super-sweet gentleman... i had a really wonderful Sunday (two wknds ago)no details (sorry) but i will mention that we met up at 12 pm, and he only dropped me off at home at 8:30 pm.. we even went to watch Ocean's 13...

and i have seen him at least twice a week since..
Met him yesterday for lunch, and we had "the serious conversation" and for a change, the guy actually wants to know where he stands (which is a def. turn of tables for me) cos, he 'is sure, and serious, and does want to date me , but wants to get married to me) which had me stumped.... i was speechless (which is a shock in itself) and I didn't know what to say, so i tried explaining part of the confusion that I'm feeling right now... and he kinda understands. So, he is going away for the wknd, and next wknd I'm in Durban (blog meet YAY!!) and hopefully, by the time i get back, i will be able have some direction.. The thing is, its not that I'm not interested or anything, but I'm just scared, and holding back because its just so soon, i only know him for about a month now? i think.. and granted that i have seen him often enough, but its a huge thing to decide ain't it?

and then there is another person.. A friend of mine gave him my number and email add... he is from SA but is working/living in London.. which makes it very long distance.. anywayz, been chatting to him for about two months on MSN, and the odd phone call, and then, he suggested that i meet up with his sister, cos he doesn't want to just keep chatting as friends, but wants his sister to "check me out" to see if He if and i will be compatible.. so, i met his sister on Monday (Bilal, that's when you saw me) and she then called him and gave him an update.. but Ive been so busy, and sick, that i haven't really had a chance to chat to him after, to get the details.. all he smsed and said was " my sister said that you are very sweet, and pleasant, but you are quite tiny" ...?? go figure!! and hows that for a strange blind date!! hehehehe

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

please vote!!

If you haven't of this yet, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN??? i suggest you vote today, since there are 2 days left to vote for the new seven wonders of the world.

Please go to this website: and be a part of history in the making..

The aim of this global project id to obtain seven symbols of global unity, seven symbols of shared global heritage. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity, so register and vote... it takes five minutes...

Monday, July 02, 2007

The people's princess

Yesterday, the 1st of July, would have been Princess Diana (princess of Wales) 46th birthday... As tribute to her memory, her sons prince William and Harry, held a concert in her memory at the Wembley Stadium on London... and the crowd was phenomenal. there were 63 000 people present at the concert, and it was broad casted live, to 145 countries around the world. DsTv has a special channel dedicated to Princess Di, which has been airing form Fri, until tom, with documentaries featuring from her childhood up until the horrid day in Paris...

so, as you may have guessed, i watched the concert on TV last night, and i was amazed, at the fact, that even though she passed away ten years ago, the turn-out to the concert bears testament that she was, and always will be, loved for the kind, generous person that she was.. A true Princess!!!

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Enlightening read ???

I have just got home from a nirthday dinner for one of my best friends. saf... after dinner, and before leaving to come i home, i popped into the exclusive books to get a copy of this weeks economicst... mow, now, you all can stop chuckling, it WAS a toss between the july issue of the cosmo.. and the economist, since the latter had a 6 page special on my favorite topic in the whole wide world... RNA.. now, im sure you are wondering why economist and business people alike, have such a facsinating topic of discussion (one which they dont quite understand, and from the bits of the article taht i read, while waitinf for my sister to come out of the movies, haven't really reported correctky on... ) but, i am glad to admit, a total geek i am not, and I DID buy the cosmo.. (sealed section in this issue ladies..) along with my brilliant saturdat night read...

*** Ruby chuckles*** I can just imagine telling my prof. on monday.. "prof, i was reading the latest copy of the economist on sat. night (makes for a good bed-time read) and i feel that the article didnt quite do the justice to the family of RNAs... I think we should writw to the editor and point out the incorrect facts on this special feature... "

well, hope you guys had a stunning saturday evening... I certainly did!!!
Tomorrow/later today, is the 'surprise date' .. i have no idea what "the gentleman" has planned, but will keep you posted...

Thursday, June 21, 2007

The rules.. (no, its not Ruby's Rules!!)

IS there a correct protocol to follow , following a blind date?
I know, having set the world record on blind-dates, i should by now, know all the etiquette, but i somehow find myself at a lost right now... (maybe its because I'm unsure... and don't know how to proceed with this particular gentleman.. and he is turning out to be a true gentleman.. i don't mean the kind that opens doors, and fetches my coat, but he is of the genuine 'nice-guy' society, and it is scaring the shyte out of me.. I have spent the week so far trying to find a fault in him.. as in a fault that i cannot accept, and i have come up with nothing.. he is not perfect, doesn't have all the obsessive things that i have been known to look for in a person.. but, he makes me laugh, and it feels as though i haven't laughed in a really long time...

but, what is the general rule-of-thumb when it comes to nice guys???
simple things like: do i call him, or do i wait for him to continue issuing the invites? (he has do so thrice already?)
and if i am so not-sure about what i want form the 'situation' could i be blamed for leading-him on at a later stage.. i now its still in the early stages, and i may be jumping the gun, but what I have no guidelines to follow.. This is the first time, where i am just 'going with the flow'. I'm not expecting the stars, and the bells to ring in my ears when i see him (it doesn't and i don't think its going to)

anyway, coming back to my initial question, how does the whole thing work? for instance: do gentlemen feel obliged to pay even in this feminist day and age, or will he feel offended if i offer? or will he feel bad if he keeps calling me, and i don't ever call him? or will he find it strange if i call him.. i know, these are stupid questions, and i probably have to ask him, and not you guys, but i cant... just like i cant seem to ask him what it is that he wants from this whole 'situation' where does he see it going? etc... maybe i should email him Ruby's Rules and see what he says? that should scare him off pretty quickly hey?

also, Can anyone think of a cool nick for him? I can't seem to think of one right now...

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Jhoom Barabhar jhoom

For a less horrible review, go to sofi's blog

Since i have been lazy this week, and not really doing much in the way of work, I called shakeera and we went to watch JBJ... Thinking that it will be a really awesome movie, since it IS a Yash Raj..flashy, lots of colour, some stunning views of London but, it was horrible.. okay, maybe I'm being a bit Harsh, but it was a silly, stupid, fluffy piece of crap, that is not suited to a Yash Raj... I'm sure some people will disagree with me on this, but the storyline was dumb, and for a two hour movie, the intro to the storyline took up at least an hour and five minutes, with the entire story unfolding (stupidly) in the last 30-35 minutes...

If you haven't heard the soundtrack before you watch the movie, I suggest that you brace yourself.. I personally hate the songs that are half-hindi half-english songs, and there are some really tacky ones in this movie.. Ticket to Hollywood, is all bright lights and dump lines, and Kiss of Love made me wanna puck.. (since Shakeera and i were on that topic of discussion before the movie began)and the title sing gets played five times, with only one line change every time... so at the , you will be singing JHoom, jhoom till you get to bed...

as for the actors: credit should be given to Priety, who lived up to her name, and was the prettiest gal of the show, her acting is always good, and she is always so stunningly clothed, with her cute dimples and gorgeous hair.. Lara Dutta's character could have been done better, excluding the accent (won't give it away), Bobby Doel looked absolutely Hideous with his permed hair and slimy looks (just when i was starting to like him form Humko tumse pyar hai)... Abhishek was as scruffy as ever, and made me question what Ash really saw in him.. oh yeah, i remember now.. its just his surname right??

All in all, the movie is a no-brainer of note, if you feel like just watching a movie that requires lees than two brain cells to watch, and you have watched all the other good shows/not-so-good shows that are also currently on circuit, then by all means JBJ is the way to go, but leave your Yash Raj expectations with the ticket holder before entering the movie...

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

On a lighter note!!

1. The nice men are ugly.

2. The handsome men are not nice.

3. The handsome and nice men are gay.

4. The handsome, nice, and heterosexual men are married.

5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.

6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.

7. The handsome men without money are after our money.

8. The handsome men, who are'nt so nice & somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.

9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have no money, are


10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have money and thank God are straight, are


11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.


Monday, June 18, 2007

Unanswered questions...

firstly, to update on #26.. He was a pleasant surprise.. A decent, normal guy, with nice-enough shoes (I have mentioned this before, so don't ask okay), not too bad looking, friendly, and I had a really nice time, and we chatted and had a few good laughs... anyone feel like a But is coming up???


I left after we had coffee , and i didn't know what i was feeling. I was driving home, trying to figure out what i thought about the whole date, and for the life of me, i just couldn't tell whether i felt happy, or sad.. Normally, the minute i leave, I'm on the phone with shakeera, telling her how awful/awesome/gross the whole ordeal was, but this time i felt as though i was I'm limbo... And it is a really unsettling feeling to have. I'm not sure why... And I'm sure that I'm just been silly/stupid/ridiculous, but i just don't know what i want anymore...

so, i was talking to
Zee, and told him how it went, and since he has always been my voice of reason (too an extent) , i asked him, what the general rule of thumb was... How do people decide what they looking for? How does one find someone, met someone, and just know... All these people that are married/ soon-to-be married /engaged /in a serious relationship always have the irritating line (that just makes me wanna scream)... it goes like this "you just know, when the time is right, you just know') and i am sorry, but people that line, just irk me... so, i ask my fellow single (or attached friends, as long as you don't tell me' you just know') .. Is there such a thing? will we JUST KNOW?(I'm sorry, i know i promised to never mention this again on my blog, but i have to..) when i met Loser Guy, i thought it was perfect, I JUST KNEW.. I felt as though i had known him all my life, and I had found a missing part of myself.. One of my friends even said we look slightly similar(i DO NOT look like Mr Bean hehehe) , but all that went horribly wrong, and i ended up getting really hurt, and that's when i started questioning my whole "soul-mate' theory..) so, is it possible that the situations that start off being perfect and go horribly wrong, are wrong.. and those that start off being not wrong,-per say- but, not perfect, are the relationships that actually adjust to your liking, and maybe have the potential of becoming something right?

What do you have to endure to find that person? Zee said expecting the stars in the sky/moon to shine more brightly etc (Basically all the emotion/drama that goes hand-in-hand with finding your soul-mate) is all just cotton-fluff, and it is all about compromise... Now, maybe I do watch too many bollywood movies, but i have this fear regarding compromise and just settling for someone.. What if I just settle,due to pressure, and fear of being alone forever... (with a seemingly good guy) , and then the scene from KANK happens 7 years from now? what then? what would you do? or do u just kiss all your fairytale endings goodbye, and grow up and make a decision and live with it?

I met up with some old friends last night, and while i was entertaining them with my woeful tales of blind-date horrors i realised something... which isn't a good thing... Every person that i have met so-far, Have given me some sort of idea, of what kind of person I am NOT looking for,and the things that the person SHOULDN'T be, but it has also made me more confused, and lost and has taken me further away from the things that i AM looking for...

Friday, June 15, 2007

Round no 13476

just kidding, it more like no. 26, but whose counting right?

I have a blind-date tomorrow, thanks to my dear friend I.. and his wife...
Dont worry hamish, i will def. be giving the autopsy report on monday!!!

(wish me luck guys)

Thursday, June 14, 2007

How do I ???

How do you tell someone, that you not only, are you not interested, But you don't want to be their friend either... Their constant mails, text messages and hello's on mxit is bugging the Heck out of you, and you would rather be bored than have a converstaion with them...

How do I do this, without being an insensitive B*&%# !!!



enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...


something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...


a youth she's content to leave behind....


a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....


a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...


one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets ; her cry...


a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...


eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...


a feeling of control over her destiny...


how to fall in love without losing herself..


how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship...


when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...


that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..


that her childhood may not have been perfect....but its over...


what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...


how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...


whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...


where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...


what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Set Adrift on Memory Bliss

this song was recommended ... by someone...

Friday, June 08, 2007

What next??

Firts there were blogger meets.. which were, and still are, cool to have, since you can control who is invited/where/when/How/why... but, this is the strangest I've heard: Facebook-Joburg meet, Melrose Arch... my goodness? Most of the people that are there, don't even know each other, and if sure there are some strange ones just arbbing around.. creepy stuff i tell you..

I had to read it twice to believe it.. can you imagine the amount of ppl that are gonna pitch up, at the corner of High Str. this evening (if anyone from Blogland is going plz, take a pic 0 I would love to just see the crowd!!!

Men in Trees (part 2)

If you don't watch men in Trees, you wont know what I'm on about.. but to those that did watch last night's episode.... WTF is wrong with Jack?Are men really so stupid? Its amazing how now matter what the 'ex' may have done, once the 'ex' is back in the picture, its goodbye to the person 'they almost falling in love with' cos I want to be *&%$^ed around with, once again!!! well, to all those loser idiots who don't notice a good thing when they find it, and are so oblivious even if something jumped up and bit the ass... i can only say one thing BLAHHH !!!!

but, Marin said it really nicely:
Jack: I'm sorry, at the time, i meant every word..
Marin: at the time?
Jack: I'm just confused.. (seriously, men need to find another line, this one is way-over used)
Marin: you know what Jack... I'm smart, I'm beautiful, I'm independent and I can stand on my own two feet. I AM A HOME-RUN...

You go girl... to all the ladies out there, don't wait to be striked out, when a home-run is in sight...

I'm in a really good mood today.. :) :)

Thursday, June 07, 2007

Corny jokes

1. Two antennas met on a roof, fell in love and got married. The
ceremony wasn't much, but the reception was excellent.

2. A jumper cable walks into a bar. The bartender says, "I'll
serve you, but don't start anything."

3. Two peanuts walk into a bar, and one was a salted.

4. A dyslexic man walks into a bra.

5. A man walks into a bar with a slab of asphalt under his arm,
and says "A beer please, and one for the road."

6. Two cannibals are eating a clown. One says to the other:
"Does this taste funny to you?"

7. "Doc, I can't stop singing 'The Green, Green Grass of Home."
"That sounds like Tom Jones Syndrome." "Is it common?" Well, "It's Not

8. Two cows are standing next to each other in a field. Daisy
says to Dolly, "I was artificially inseminated this morning." "I don't
believe you," says Dolly. "It's true; no bull!" exclaims Daisy.

9. An invisible man marries an invisible woman. The kids were
nothing to look at either.

10. Deja Moo: The feeling that you've heard this bull before.

11. I went to buy some camouflage trousers the other day, but I
couldn't find any.

12. A man woke up in a hospital after a serious accident. He
shouted, "Doctor, doctor, I can't feel my legs!" The doctor replied, "I
know you can't - I've cut off your arms!"

13. I went to a seafood disco last week...and pulled a mussel.

14. What do you call a fish with no eyes? A fsh.

15. Two fish swim into a concrete wall. The one turns to the
other and says, "Dam!"

16. Two Eskimos sitting in a kayak were chilly, so they lit a
fire in the craft. Unsurprisingly it sank, proving once again that you can't have your kayak and heat it too.

17. A group of chess enthusiasts checked into a hotel, and were
standing in the lobby discussing their recent tournament
victories. After about an hour, the manager came out of the office, and asked them to disperse. "But why," they asked, as they moved off. "Because," he said, "I can't stand chess-nuts boasting in an open foyer."

18. A woman has twins, and gives them up for adoption. One of
them goes to a family in Egypt, and is named "Ahmal." The other goes to a family in Spain; they name him "Juan." Years later, Juan sends a
picture of himself to his birth mother. Upon receiving the picture, she
tells her husband that she wishes she also had a picture of Ahmal. Her
husband responds, "They're twins! If you've seen Juan, you've seen Ahmal."

19. Mahatma Gandhi, as you know, walked barefoot most of the time,
which produced an impressive set of calluses on his feet. He also ate
very little, which made him rather frail and with his odd diet,
he suffered from bad breath. This made him. (Oh, Man, this is so
bad, it's good) ....... A super-calloused fragile mystic hexed by

20. And finally, there was the person who sent twenty different
puns to his friends, with the hope that at least ten of the puns would
make them laugh.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

sucky weather

Its cold, its raining ,its dark outside and its utterly miserable.. I hate this weather. One day, i would like to be like those people that have homes on two seperate continents, so that I won't have to endure winter. When its summer in SA, i will live here, and come autumn, i will move to where-ever the warm, sunny summer is...

When have it ever rained in winter?I think they should re-name global warming to global-freezing... cos my brain feels like its frozen over.. i can't even think of anything else to say!!!

Monday, May 28, 2007

current mood: sad

I am having a sad day.. despite the fact that my presentation went well, the sales reps. from the two companies that were present were impressed that i have thus far, managed to get this technique called SSH to work, the one said that she has only met three people that have got it to work.. so i was quite chuffed with myself... and if I get enough mRNA , i wont even need the R75 000 , all my sequencing can be done at R20000 max... yay, there is a faint glow of light at the end of the tunnel... but still.. i am in a really crappy modd, feeling as though i am all alone... and i just want to cry!!! I hate feeling like this... and chocolate is not working? so now im clueless as to what to do.. maybe i should go shopping? that's an idea!!!

your true worth... according to indians

why is it that no matter what you do, as an Indian, your worth is always measured by whether you are married and have a husband in tow? it doesn't matter that you are independent(or as independent as an Indian girl is allowed to be), educated, happy, not on the verge of committing suicide, the fact that you are 'alone', 'single' and thus, not able to do anything (like make babies, and run a household) you are just incompetent in the eyes of 'the older generation' and also the younger ppl that ARE married...

here's the story:
i was invited to a braai yesterday. The lady that arranged the braai, was a really good friend of mine, and all our friends that used to hang out together at campus (when we were all in undergrad) were invited. We were about 15 of us, and now, there are three girls, and 4 guys left i.e. not hitched yet... so, i made a dessert and went to this braai... not having seen most of them for the last three n half yrs or so.. and i was bored out of my mind... The girls from the group that got married, didn't have much else besides housework to talk about, the wives of guys from the group, didn't say much, except for one ... that was so cute and bubbly, she actually kept everyone going, and the rest of them just sat there... which made me wonder... do people change so much, that people that were once with me for days on end, people that i spent my entire uni. era with, change so much, that we no longer have anything in common.. The sad thing is, that those that have gotten married, haven't seemed to change much (person-wise) whereas us.. the single guys and gals, rocked... we happy and content with ourselves, but.. that's not how we are seen!! it just made me wonder...

then i left the very exciting braai (while everyone was playing soccer.. i don't play soccer anymore) and went to my uncle's house since we have some family over from the U.K.... and here, i met the older people, that literally, tried marrying me off in front of my eyes, to this guy that was there from London... His mother acted as though i wasn't sitting in front of her face, asking about me.And naturally, the big question was posed" so, what are you going to do next year? are you for a job? " to which , i gave my standard reply... "I'm not really sure yet, but I'm keen on continuing my research, and I went to do my PhD, and that's when my mum, shooting daggers at me... says" i don't know why she wants to study, she has been at it for so many years, its time she settles down!!!! Settles down, as if I'm running around, doing all kinds of wrong things or something, and now i need settling down... Never mind, that i have an aim, an ambition in life, to be something, other than an extension of some prick or a**hole, I must just get married, for the sake of getting married, to any piece of crap that comes to my door because no Indian girl is worth anything if she is not married... oh yeah, and the reason that I'm not married, and will "be left behind" is because I'm too fussy, and too picky and keep saying no.. So, regardless of whoever people set me up with, be it a complete jerk, and idiot, a geek, a freak of nature, regardless of whether he even knows how to spell 'biochemistry' (there was one that couldn't) i must stop being choosy... and just get married, cos its the Indian thing to do!!!

BTW, if I'm still single when I turn 26.. (which is in exactly two months time) there will be an ad. in the classifieds, stating that THIS Indian girl is hopeless in finding a life partner...

*disclaimer* I'm sorry, just had to let off some steam..!!!

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Im so stressed out...

had a meetin gwith my supervsior on tuesday. turns out, that to complete my project i.e. my masters, I need an excess of R75 000 so that the company can be paid to do my sequences.. I was initially doing all the sequence crap on campus, but the dept. housing the machine, has some problem... if the dean doesnt agree to the additional funding, I need to get another plan... but, there is this new technology out, that i could probably use, and get everyhting done for half the amount of cash... but, that would mean starting my project from scrath.. all the work that i have done over the last 2 yrs, will no longer be relevant, sincve those methods are now antiquated...

for now though, i have to prepare a presentation to the conmpany interested in helping me with the new tech,. stuff for monday, and after monday, i will know the satus of the life!!! till then... request for duas please...

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

My nephew and I

My nephew is in nursery school, but the amount of stuff that they have to do is ridiculous, and naturally, as his aunt, i end up doing the stuff him. The project for this week was to build a model of a house, so, i spent my sunday making a house, painting it and got it ready for him to take to school yesterday... only to find out that his house was too plain (words of my sister.. his mother) and the other kids in the class all had 'cooler looking' houses (his words) ... so, the next time he has a project, i will not do it for him, no matter how many hugs and kisses i get as bribery for the work to be done...

For next week, he has to learn a nursery rhyme since they going to have a nursery rhyme competition.. try getting a four year old to repeat after you.. nursery rhymes which I haven't heard of.. ever!!! I really dont recall doing any these things when i was at pre-school..

Monday, May 21, 2007

My holiday- detailed!

So, MJ has been complaining, since the last few posts on my blog have only been videos... but since getting back form my trip, i have been so busy at work, that i didnt even get a chance to sit down an reply to all the mail that piled up while i was away..

as promised, here is the details of my holiday:
it was absolutely what I needed.. I got to spend time with my friend (whom i miss terribly since she got married and moved to CT) , i got to spend time with my best friend and her family (she came with me but stayed at her sister's house) but most immportantly, i got to spend time with myself.. yep, im not being conceited or anything, but after all the drama regarding the loser, i just needed atime out, away from everyone and everything, to get things back into perspective, and this short holiday was just what i needed. I was staying at century city, so i could pop inot Canal Walk anytime i wanted , watched movies, did some shopping and when my friend was free, we did stuff together... I didnt do much tourist-y things, but i have seen all the major spots of Cape Town, so it was fine by me, besides, when u go sight-seeing etc. you get tired and i wasnt up for that...

Also, a highlight of my trip was taht i got to meet three fellow bloggers. I regrettably, wasnt as organised as most of you , so, i ended up meeting each of them seperately (all at Canal Walk) but, singleguy and I managed to meet up at Limnos for chocolate eclairs and chocolate cake (yummy), Dreamlife and I met up for coffee, and Lady and I managed to spend sunday afternoon, having a girly-girl chat over Divine Marcel Apple baklava ice-cream..

But the climax to my trip,was as i landed at OR Tambo tuesday evening and switched on my cell, I got a message from none other than Loser Guy... after two freaking months... the sms went like this : slmz, hope you're ok. just wanted to say hi. take Care... well, screw you Loser, I didnt reply.. cos, im no dummy.. there is no such thing as coincidence esp. for him to contact me after two and a half months.. so i figured, that he was in CT (since his old/new/current/always) girlfriend lets call her Mini-Mouse (now now, im not being mean, she drives amini cooper) lives there, and since she waorks really close to Canal Walk, at the same company as my friend and He does, the a**hole, must have seen me at their building or CW, and he was trying to see if i would tell him that i was around.. well, HA to you...
then, on wed. evening, i went to visit a friend of mine, who also happens to know the whole crew of this drama, and i found out that this girl Minnie Mouse, went out/was going out with Loser guy from 2004. now, i knew that he went out with her before he met me, but he told me a completely different story, and these sources have the first-hand truth... so, i am so grateful, that i did not reply to his sms, (thanks MJ for the advice) , and also that i longer have any contact with this liar loser of note... and since i found this out, i have been so happy, its unbelievable... I actually feel sorry for him, since he is 33 yrs old, but he is as confused as an 18 yr old (no, even an 18 yr old knows where they headed) cos if he is going out with her for 3-odd yrs,on/off, and still doesnt know if he wants to marry her,or doesnt have the guts (read balls) to stand up to his parents whom i suspect don't approve of Minnie Mouse, then he is befitting of the name Loser Guy, and I feel sorry for her as well, cos regardless of whta type of person she is , no-one deserves to be used in this way, and to be stringed (is this a word?) along for so many years thinking that all is hunky-dory in your little world, without having any idea of what your 'boyfriend's intentions are... onlt thing i can say i s Shmae , for both of them, and I am Thankful to Allah, for having saved me from something evil.. and I promise that this is the last time that i mention Loser Guy on my blog... This is valuable space not worthy of crap!! lol...

so, i am once again, my happy content self, just freezing in the cold today!!!

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Im Back !!

Had a really wonderful time in Cape Town, but true jo-burg girl that i am, I'm thrilled to be back(CT is nice for a hoilday, but wont think of living there permanently) ... will tell all about my very relaxing, de-stressing holiday soon...

Hope u guys are all well..

Thursday, May 10, 2007

[ Shah Rukh Khan ] - Kar Le Kar Le Video Music

Check out SRK's new video.. The man is looking HOT !!!

Citizens for a Better America -

I heard this song on Highveld stereo this morning... Paris Hilton, hope u dont take this song as a tribute to u , but as what its meant to be!!

Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Ruby's Bags are packed...

My bags are packed, my leave has been approved, and my plane is hopefully all fuelled and ready to go, just wish i had taken a longer holiday.. five days may be too short, but nevertheless.. as long as i get to eat "sinful" ice-cream i will be happy... (haagen Dazs falls short in comparison)
Other than that, im just gonna relax, this holiday is for me and me alone, away from everythinh, and everyone that stresses me out, from the roads in JHb, to fetching people, running errands, and worrying about family and friends.. These five days are my 'ME" time... and i intend taking full advantage!!!

so for now, Ciao...

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Response to HHP's Q's (Moral dilemma)

Hamish had these questions posted on his blog, and he wanted to know how people would handle these situations, so, i decided to answer them as a post...

1. Your boss gives you a sum of money. He tells you that the amount is R10000. You take the money and in your office you count it. You find out it is in fact R15000. What do you do? Go to your boss and tell him that there is extra cash...

2.You find out something about someone that could cost them their job. This someone is a dirty low down scoundrel that would use the information if the roles were reversed. What do you do? Send an anon. note to the scoundrel’s boss

3.A loved one is terminally ill. They are in pain every minutes of every day. The medication is not working. They beg you to end their suffering. What do you do? NOT end their suffering, but be there every painful step of the way..

4.You SO (significant other) is out of town, you’re with your mates and Hotty Machotness and you strike up a conversation. Later in the evening Machotness confesses that she is attracted to you and invites you back to his/her place. What do you do? Decline , tell her that u in love with your SO and do the betrayal game, and go to your Home!

5.Your relationship is headed towards the rocks. Someone else is showing interest in you. The problem is, technically you still have a SO. What do you do? End it with SO before you start something up with the new person.

6.classic movie scenario Your SO is threatened, We’ll make life difficult for her if you don’t break up. What do you do? Break-up to save her life, and when the danger is gotten rid of, explain all to her.

7.It’s the night before exams, your studying is going sideways. A friend tells you he has the exam paper. No charge, he’ll give it to you. What do you do? Yes no thanks. and Study harder

8.You have the chance to kill someone. No witnesses, and no way of tracing it back to you. What do you do? Nope, wont kill the person.. CSI may just figure out that it was you

9.You find out your best friend in the whole world is a thief. What do you do? Ask her why she/he steals? Maybe its a need and not a want.

10.Someone close to you is killed by a drunk driver. He is acquitted in court and comes to you for forgiveness. What do you do? Tricky, ideally, is God can forgive why can’t we right? But im not THAT big a person!

11.A person who has gone out of their way to make life hell for you comes to you and says I have cancer, I am looking for forgiveness. What do you do? It depends how hellish they made your life.. if you are over the stuff that they did to you, then forgive!

12.A city is in chaos, people are looting and stealing. The electronics shop has that item you’ve always wanted. What do you do? Walk pass the store, tempting but not worth it!

13.Your SO admits that he/she once cheated on you. What do you do? Break up with SO, if So did it once, SO can do it again, once the trust is broken, there is no going back

14.Someone offers you a large sum of money if you can facilitate a deal between him and known criminals. You suspect the deal is illegal. What do you do? Pimp him to the cops.

15.Your best friend’s SO makes a pass at you. What do you do? Tell your best friend.. their SO is a jerk/jerkette and they deserve to know

16.You lost count reading namaaz. Was it 2 or 3 rakaats? What do you do? Break your namaaz and start again.

17.You’re a lawyer, bound by an ethical code, you know your client abused a child. What do you do? Refuse to represent him
You find out one of your parents is having an affair. What do you do? Confront that parent, and say that if it doesnt end, you will tell the other parent. but all respect for said parent will be lost

18.You’re in a relationship. It blows. But the sex is awesome. What do you do? Have a last night together, save the memory of the good sex, and walk away. If its bad, i dont think good sex can make a relationship work.

19.Your friend breaks up with their significant other. You have always gotten along well with said SO. SO says that he/she has started developing feelings for you. What do you do? Depends on how good a friend it is.. if its best friend.. friendship is more imp. If not so close, maybe meet the ex-SO for coffee and see if there is an attraction.

20.You have rules. Once you say it’s over, it’s over. No appeals process. You find out though that you were a bit hasty in your decision. What do you do? Call the person and apoloigise for the hasty decision, and hopefullt the situation can be saved.

21.You borrow money from a wealthy friend. You promise to pay him back. He never asks and you conveniently forget. Comment If and when you do have the money, pay him back..

22.You walk out a store and when you get to the car you realize that a tube of lip balm was not paid for. What do you do? Go back into the store and pay for it

23.A girl comes up and says she is pregnant and that you are the father, what do you do? N/A

24.Your boyfriend mistakenly mentions another girls name when talking to you. What do you do? Ask him who the person is, then verify his answers via your own sources... )if he is not trustworthy)

25.You SO asks you how many people you’ve dated. Do you tell them how many you’ve dated and leave out the people you’ve been intimate with? What do you do? Tell the whole truth.. all the people, and all that you’ve done.

26.In the South African Law of Delict, an omission is an act where there is a duty on you to speak. You have information that might devastate your friend/SO/ Family member but in the long run it will be better for them to know. What do you do? Tell them.

27.The Moulana says that you cant be friends with anyone other than other Muslims. Your best friend is not Muslim. What do you do? If the friend is a good person, stay friends with them

28.A women shoots her drunk husband. For years he has abused her. Is she guilty of murder? Maybe it was self-defense

29.A gay person makes a pass at you. What do you do? Politely tell them that you are not gay!


Maybe . . we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Maybe . . . when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don't even see the new one which has been opened for us.

Maybe . . . it is true that we don't know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives.

Maybe . . . the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Maybe . . . the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can't go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches.

Maybe . . . you should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of, and want to do.

Maybe . . . there are moments in life when you miss someone -- a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child -- so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate them more.

Maybe . . . the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

Maybe . . you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.

Maybe . . you should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.

Maybe . . giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.

Maybe . . . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives.

Maybe . . . you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive; don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Maybe . . you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy

Maybe . . . you should try to live your life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling but when you die, you can be the one who is smiling and everyone around you crying.

Maybe. . . you could send this message to those people who mean something to you, to those who have touched your life, to those who can and do make you smile when you really need it, to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down, and to all those whom you want to know that you appreciate them and their friendship. ( that’s all of you fellow bloggers !!!)

Thursday, May 03, 2007

Celebrity look-alikes

Since MJ introduced me to, it has become my latest hobby of note.. I have been uploading everyone's photos and I have also got all my friends in the lab checking the website out.

So, i decided to try and do the face recognition with a pic of 'the loser' ...
heres the result... Hope u guys have a good laugh, i did, and im feeling so much better... (so much for him thinking that he was the coolest thing since toilet paper) .. Now, right now, i wish i hadn't cut all ties with him, so that i could e-mail him this post and show him the results... okay, im being mean , i know, but he desrves it... the cheating Bastido!!! (another story on its own)hehehe, not one hot guy in sight!!!

And since i didnt really like the results of mine (it missed the sushmita sen hit :( :( i tried it with another pic, and this one was a little better...

Saturday, April 28, 2007


A friend of mine and i were having one of those 'meaning of life' conversations' and and since we are both scientists, i decided to ask her if she does believe in serendipity (since Single guy has linked me with a question...

Im sure most of u have an idea as to what i think serendipity is, but, i'd like everyone elses thoughts please...

but, (here's where the thinking too much bit comes in) what if you think its serendipity, and you have found your soul-mate but you don't know whether the second feels the same/they don't feel the same/they did feel that instant connection/spark/click , but they were stupid to realise that this was it??? what then?

I was chatting to MJ and he thinks that i just land up with jerks, so, maybe its a part of my serendipity to just find these Jerks... anyone know how i can change this god-awful jerk-luck ??? oh yeah, we have also coined a word: the female of a jerk will henceforth be called Jerkette... :) :)

Freedom Day

Hope you all had a fantastic Freedom Day...I was watching 3-talk with Noeleen(yeah, i was all dressed up and no-where to go) and she was interviewing ppl about what thewy thought of our 'young' democracy... and the general vote is that south africans who are happy with this country, and i think we SHOULD be ... we have come a long way from the apartheid regime, and although, it may take a long time to get over the whole idea, baby=steps are good! Viva South Africa...

Proudly South African
(well, except for the S.A. cricket team, whom are arriving at OR TAMBO INt airport this afternoon... ) i wonder what kind of welcome they going to receive.. maybe i should take a drive to the airport!!!

Thursday, April 26, 2007


got this idea from Dew's blog!!!

Your Famous Movie Kiss is from Spiderman

"I have always been standing in your doorway. Isn't it about time somebody saved your life?"

You Are Designer Panties

You demand the best, from head to toe.
And your panties have to be pure couture, for your own luxury.
Men feel like you're a worthy challenge, though you can be difficult to catch.
You exude a polished, sexy vibe that tends to attract confident men.

Your Love Quote

Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude. It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd.

Your Kisses Are Medium-Hot

Your kisses are definitely sexy, but you're not about to make anyone gasp for air.
You take it slow and steady... and you ramp things up when you get the right signals.
Your kissing style is adaptable and adept. And people who kiss you love it!

You Are 48% Addicted to Love

Might as well face it, you're addicted to love.
You've been a fool for love many times - but are you the wiser for it?
Your needs should come first, both in and out of relationships.
Because you're the only one who can look out for yourself!

Your Stripper Song Is

Closer by Nine Inch Nails

"You let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
You let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you
Help me I broke apart my insides, help me I?ve got no
Soul to tell"

When you dance, it's a little scary - and a lot sexy.

You Are More Mild Than Wild

You're confident, and you really aren't concerned with how "hot" you are.
Other people's ideas of what's sexy don't concern you. And this is exactly what makes you attractive.

What Your Face Says

At first glance, people see you as down to earth and reliable.

Overall, your true self is passionate and physical.

With friends, you seem dramatic, lively, and quick to react.

In love, you seem mysterious and interesting.

In stressful situation, you seem like you're oblivious to the stress.

You Are A Romantic

You life your life like a fairy tale... or at least you try to.
Living for magical moments, you believe there's only one true love for you.
Love is the most important thing in your life, and you don't take it for granted.
Your perfect match loves to be in love as much as you do!

Mika Grace Kelly

i dont know why, but this guy reminds me of MJ, so, im dedicating this song to you MJ ....


Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Take Care now!!!

I have a confession to make; I have a monthly subscription to Cosmo mag. and Glamour mag... And this is an article from the May 2007 issue of cosmo... let me know what you guys think...

i dated this guy once. We fell in lust, played sleepovers, introduced our friends, SMSed each other incessantly and proposed things we knew we'd never follow through. it was glorious. Then he went overseas for two months. At first, we smsed daily, and used MSN Messenger enthusiastically. then it trickled down to the odd email. Finally, it waned to sporadic SMSs when we were drunk or lonely. And then one day I smsed him and got this reply: 'Hey babe. I'm buying fresh lobster at the market. Hope every thing's good in your world. take Care X '

I knew it was over...
I had been "take cared" , and when you've been take cared, you simply get your coat and leave quietly. Otherwise you risk being a 'Person who just doesn't get it ' and these are the ppl who earn the unfortunate name of 'the psycho' in dating folklore.
When the guy you're seeing finishes an sms, e-mail or conversation with Take Care, he's saying: Hey' we've had fun, but Ive moved on, so look after yourself, and, well, don't contact me anymore.

But, But, 'says your heart', it can it not just be him genuinely wishing me health and happiness? sure, it can. For good. because what can you write back to take care? (other than You too?) You can't write squat. It's designed to come across as final,, because it is Final. The genius of the Take Care lies in its subtlety-its at once pleasant and brutal.

When i told my friends I'd been Take cared, no explanation was required. "ouch' said one.'what a coward' said another. was he a coward? well, yes and no. he at least had the decency to use the new universal jargon for 'it's over' . But he also took the liberty of playing Relationship Executioner without asking me whether i also thought our expiry date had been reached. we decide he was an a**-hole. Beneath my tough-girl exterior, i was hurt. But on some level, i knew i deserved my take Care. after all, How many times had i Take cared guys?

Woman take care guys a lot. We're too emotionally aware never to call again(like guys do) so we say something 'nice' instead.(then we never call again) For us, the Take Care is like a 'drive safely' or the 'look after yourself'. Its that motherly thing-its innate.
Know this one? A new guy you 'not really feeling' shows some interest. you say' thanks so much, blah blah, soo busy. Take Care. the words may vary slightly but the formula is the same: we issue the Take care and get on with things, happy it ended sans bad blood. And therein lies the reason we hate getting Take Cared- it has always been our relationship-severing device.
The Take Care isn't a nice thing to experience- but it's a lot better than a deafening silence. so the next time you see or hear those two little words, remember what you said to the last guy you 'weren't into' Because if what you said to him wasn't 'I'm gay', chances are you gave him the Take Care. Seems all really IS fair in love and dating... You Take Care now!!!

p.s. what do u guys think? i have been trying to think of how many Take care's I have sent/received... without even knowing that this is what it meant really!!

Friday, April 20, 2007

Odd Comments

firstly, i would just like the durban bloggers to know, we also had a blog-meet, and although it wasnn't long enough to actually take photos like u guys, and post them, we ALSO had a nice time. hahahaha...(hope you guys are jealous now:) :)

Has anyone seen the new Vodacom ad???

I think its so adorable... Mo has a girlfriend called Moesha.. (tacky i know..)and as much i dont like Vodacom right now( they employ a**-Holes, like the Loser, there adverts are the coolest, unlike MTN... the latest one being the four dudes on the threadmill.... (seen that one yet??? ) as you guys can guess, i watch alot of tv... its called procrastination...

I have nothing else to vent about, and no life-altering episodes to tell, so, hope everyone has a lovely weekend...

Ruby Ruby Ruby

Thursday, April 19, 2007

First Attempt at a video!!

Hey guys, im trying to add the RUBY video onto my blog, as suggested by MOE, and with the kind help of Sweet-essence, but im not sure if its going to work... (its my first attempt with all this tech. stuff, so plz forgive me if it shows up as a code, and nothing else... )

Music Video Codes by VideoCure

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

The Song!!!

Okay, since everyone thinks of me (yay, i feel so loved) when they hear this song on the radio, I have decided to officially adopt it as my theme song for my blog... its playing on Highveld right now !!!

It would be really cool, if every time someone visited my blog, this song would play, but even if that was technically possible to do, I'm not tech-smart enough to get it done.. sorry!!!

Here are the words to sing along:

RUBY by Kaiser Chiefs

(Da da daaa, da da daaa)

(Da da daaa, da da daaa)

Let it never be said, that romance is dead
Cos there’s so little else occupying my head
There is nothing I need except the function to breathe
But I’m not really fussed, doesn’t matter to me

Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby
Do ya, do ya, do ya, do ya
Know what ya doing, doing to me?
Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby

Due to lack of interest tomorrow is cancelled
Let the clocks be reset and the pendulums held
Cos there’s nothing at all except the space in between
Finding out what you’re called and repeating your name

Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby
Do ya, do ya, do ya, do ya
[ Lyrics found on ]

Know what ya doing, doing to me?
Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby
Ahaa-ahaa-ahaa, aaaa

Could it be, could it be that you’re joking with me
And you don’t really see you with me
Could it be, could it be that you’re joking with me
And you don’t really see you with me


Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby
Do ya, do ya, do ya, do ya
Know what ya doing, doing to me?
Ruby, Ruby, Ruby, Ruby
Do ya, do ya, do ya, do ya
Ahaa-ahaa-ahaa (Da da da, da da da)
Know what ya doing, doing to me?
Ahaa-ahaa-ahaa, aaaa

with love from RUBY !!!! mmwwwaahh :-x :-x

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

A century old , with alot of Sole!!

My blog officially has 100 posts... and it is now a century old... :) :) Yay for me!!!

Hope you guys all had a fantabulous weekend... I can only sum-up my wknd with one word... FOOD !!! and lots of it!!

By last night, i felt as though i had put on at least five kilos, but my clothes still fit this morning, so, i guess it wasn't that bad, but boy, did i eat alot of Junk food... on Friday afternoon, after the usual family lunch (you know, when everyone is at home be cos of the holiday, so the Friday lunch is as big as a Sunday lunch) yep, that one, I went to the fete in Mayfair (sultan bahu fete)with my brother and his wife, and a cousin of mine. It was dusty, windy and lots of people, but, I got hungry the minute we got there, so i bought those cup-of-corn things that are all over now-adays, then, the smell of freshly popped popcorn was too tempting to resist, so, had to get some, by he time we got home, it was in time for supper... (cant remember what i ate though!)

Saturday was the usual, I work at the family business every sat. morning, then I went out for lunch to Jimmy's , couldn't decide what to have, so i ended up having Kingklip AND prawns... then Shaks phoned to ask if i wanted to go with her to the fete, so, I went again, walked around fro about half an hour, put my nephew on the pony ride, and then we went to her place... We were sitting on her hammock (which is very cool, and you can see all the stars in JHb on a clear night) when we both decided that e were hungry, so we went to Cafe nescafe for supper... But, Sweet-tooth that i am, I didn't feel like having anything savoury, ordered a waffle with Nutella, ice cream and whispers.... it was sooo good!!! oh yeah, and a chocolate cappuccino!!!

Went to the rand Easter show on Sunday with shaks, my sister and bro-in-law and nephew. Briefly this is what i ate: Belgian Waffles, Cheese burger with chips, water, Chip-stix, toffee apple!!! (hey, at least i left out the candy floss right!)

anyway, yesterday, we had visitors family from the plaas) for4 lunch so had a BIG lunch again, and then we were sitting around and decided to go for a movie, but by the time we got to Sandton, the movie had started already, so we did the next best thing... Haagen Dazs... I had the chocolate brownie ... not the best that Ive tasted, but its quite nice!!!

so, that was my wknd in a nut-shell.... I am not in any way obese, I'm really thin, and only weigh 46kgs, so, when i complain about how much i eat people dont believe me, but this weekend was a tad too much, and i pigged out(it was all comfort food ... and i plan on NOT having ANY junk food for the rest of the week... or until i leave for my holiday!!

Thursday, April 05, 2007

Men in Trees

I'm sure if everyone knows, but I just loved the series Sex and The City, and was really upset when it ended, so, when i heard that Men in Trees were by the same producers, I eagerly awaited for the pilot...

for those of you that haven't even heard of it? where have you been? definitely not driving on the M1 in JHb, cos there has been this huge billboard advertising it for two months before it began...

Anyway: the story is based on this woman, who is an author of a best-seller, based on what actually men are all about,.... But she has been recently dumped by her Fiancee 9she caught him in bed with someone) and so, she packed up and found herself in Alaska... with a huge shortage of women.... Its quite entertaining, and I can really relate to this woman..

Some things that she said in last weeks episode, really made lots of sense and i think that its something that everyone wants...
"I'm just scared that when it gets better, and i know it will, there wont be anyone to share my joy " ... ( this is also my greatest fear, to be alone)
" you Can't be the best to someone special till You the best to yourself... ( that's why you have to love yourself, before someone else can love you)
this last quote is for all the single friends:
Being alone isn't something to suffer through, its something to celebrate and when the universe will see how happy you are, it will celebrate with you...

Men in Trees is on air, on Thursday evening at 19H30 on DStv series channel 36...

Have a lovely weekend !!!

I miss you !!!

This feeble attempt of a poem is dedicated to 'Loser Guy'

I know i shouldn't, but i do,
I still keep thinking about you...
I know i shouldn't, but i do,
I still want to talk to you..

To tell you all about my day,
all the good and bad...
To hear your voice, see your handsome face,
you were able to make me smile
when i was feeling sad...

I miss getting an sms, or the HELLO on msn...
I miss your sweet "miss u, thinking of u " msgs the most,
I didn't think that i could feel so lost...

I know that there is some other woman, and you probably don't even think about me...
But, for a little while, U made me feel as though i was the most important person in your world, and I made you mine...

I Miss YOU !!!!

Wednesday, April 04, 2007

The Weekend

I was going to do a really long post, on my exciting weekend, but i have no time... going out for lunch with the crew at work, so, i will just do it briefly....

I went on a hot-air balloon ride ... it was awesome, and so romantic... i spent the sat. nite out with best friend #2 since best friend # 1 was "otherwise occupied" and since we are both recently single again, we went out 'on a date' with each other.... so, following the really cool balloon ride, we watched a sweet chic flick "its a boy/girl thing" (we didnt know what it was all about when we were buyin the tickets) but its was a nice, light comedy, more suitable for teenagers though!!! and then, we had Baglios Pistachio and Bacio Ice-cream yummmm....
on Sunday , had a Honours Class of Biochemistry reunion (yeah, its such a long time ago) that we can have a reunion... and its such fun, and we made such a big noise at JB's at Melrose Arch, that im sure the other ppl having lunch thought we were a crazy bunch!!! sad part , was taht from the 11 of us that studied together, only two us were single, the rest of the bunch came along with significant others... oh well!!!

gotta dash now ..

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Wonderful world of TAG

New round on tag... this time courtesy of ://">Lady

The instructions are to answer every question with an answer of three words. No more, no less.

1. Where is your cell phone? - In my Pocket
2. Boyfriend/girlfriend? – No, single !!!
3. Hair? – Long, straight, Brown
4. Your mother? – the best cook
5. Your father? – The best dad
6. Your favorite item(s)? – Car,bed,radio
7. Your dream last night? –Cant remember
8. Your favorite drink? – Red Grapetiser
9. Your dream guy/girl? – Has been ordered!
10. The room you are in? – data analysis room
11. Your fear? – growing old alone
12. What do you want to be in 10 years? – Dr of Biochemistry
13. Who did you hang out with last night? - My best friend
14. What are you not? – A blonde bimbo
15. Are you in love? - thought i was!, but no!
16. One of your wish list items? – A prada boot
17. What time is it? – way past lunchtime!
18. The last thing you did? – fetched liquid nitrogen (im at work okay )
19. What are you wearing? – Jeans, shirt, lab-coat
20. Your favorite book? – Taj Mahal
21. The last thing you ate? - toasted cheese n tomato
22. Your life? – could be better
23. Your mood? – biopolar- sad n happy
24. Your friends? – make me smile
25. What are you thinking about right now? - Saturday night out
26. What are you doing at this moment? - Answering this tag
27. Your summer? – Is always great
28. Your relationship status? - Single-25, JHB
29. What is on your TV screen? – no TV here
30. When is the last time you laughed? – about an hour ago

I Tag:">MJ
single guy CT