Update! Finally!!
well, its seems as though I've been firnds with Zee for too long, cos now, I'm becoming as sick-prone as he is... yep, i have conjunctivitis since Monday evening, and to my dismay, have been wearing my glasses *sob. sob sob*.. so, zee, i hope i don't burn myself with hot water soon ... just kidding, you still my on my best friends list *ruby winks at Zee***
okay,so, the much awaited update: Mr gentleman is now upgraded to super-sweet gentleman... i had a really wonderful Sunday (two wknds ago)no details (sorry) but i will mention that we met up at 12 pm, and he only dropped me off at home at 8:30 pm.. we even went to watch Ocean's 13...
and i have seen him at least twice a week since..
Met him yesterday for lunch, and we had "the serious conversation" and for a change, the guy actually wants to know where he stands (which is a def. turn of tables for me) cos, he 'is sure, and serious, and does want to date me , but wants to get married to me) which had me stumped.... i was speechless (which is a shock in itself) and I didn't know what to say, so i tried explaining part of the confusion that I'm feeling right now... and he kinda understands. So, he is going away for the wknd, and next wknd I'm in Durban (blog meet YAY!!) and hopefully, by the time i get back, i will be able have some direction.. The thing is, its not that I'm not interested or anything, but I'm just scared, and holding back because its just so soon, i only know him for about a month now? i think.. and granted that i have seen him often enough, but its a huge thing to decide ain't it?
and then there is another person.. A friend of mine gave him my number and email add... he is from SA but is working/living in London.. which makes it very long distance.. anywayz, been chatting to him for about two months on MSN, and the odd phone call, and then, he suggested that i meet up with his sister, cos he doesn't want to just keep chatting as friends, but wants his sister to "check me out" to see if He if and i will be compatible.. so, i met his sister on Monday (Bilal, that's when you saw me) and she then called him and gave him an update.. but Ive been so busy, and sick, that i haven't really had a chance to chat to him after, to get the details.. all he smsed and said was " my sister said that you are very sweet, and pleasant, but you are quite tiny" ...?? go figure!! and hows that for a strange blind date!! hehehehe
14 comments:
im so happy for you... :) well just make sure u know what u are doing and the guy well enough and im sure ull make the right decision... :)
cant wait to meet up :)
isnt been tiny a good thing ? hmmm
conjunctivitis is crap..had it once. was not fun!
well, i'm glad to see that you have a guy who has a positive direction in what he's looking for with you :) that's good!
don't be so scared...sometimes you just have to jump over the cliff and see what comes from it :)
and let's face it...the traditional arranged marriages...the couples meet each other once, read istikharah, if yes, get engaged...get married...have kids...and live happily. (most of them do anyhoo)
e.g. my brother did it that way.
so don't worry about the time thing...if it feels right, if he comes from a good home, shares a few similar interests, has respect for you, cherishes you, has similar morals as you and above all is a good muslim, i don't see what's the problem.
as for the other guy, you need to meet him in person before passing deciding on anything.
the ball is in your court ruby :) how does that feel? ;D
Saf; i think indians have lots of issues.. being fat is a probelem, being tiny is a problem? if u eat its a problem, if you eat when you go out with ppl they think you anorexic? i give up ..
Fati: im hating the eye infection, havent really worn specs. for years so its strange.. Re: Mr gentleman, all those pionts taht you mentioned, have a tick next to it... my sister says in being too serious and stuck -up and i must just relax, but its scary, taking a risk esp. when i always expect things to go wrong... and the ball in my court: doesnt feel as good as i thought it would..
Damn girl, that does seem a bit soon after one month. But then what do I know, my personal life is a mess and I'm proably going to end up lonely and cold.
The deciding factor should be (in my opinion) which one seems like a better muslim? - a better Muslim means a better husband:)
ooh as as for your above comment about eating and people's problems. God. I hate people who mind other people's business. its so stupid! and I will def try to avoid it!
hey honey awesome you meeting him and all this nonsense about soon soon lol wel i been there and got a scolding and was very nicely told if it meant to be it will and read istikara (repeated from daddy dearest)...
i think i may not see u the week end you in dbn how sad is that *zah goes cries in the corner*
but let me knw mwah
well....
...This is what usually happens....I go through a dry spell, being more single than ever....and then when I'm seeing someone for a short time, suddenly there are other options too...and what happens is I end up with neither....
Here is my advice...(actually you shouldn't be really taking advice from me, but I'm gonna give it to you in any case)...Check out supersweet gentleman properly.
I mean PROPERLY.
Put your spies on the case...find out why he is in such a stupendous hurry...does he need citizenship?...is he hiding from the law...find out about previous relationships...why has he not settled down before, but suddenly out of the blue is the most romantic guy under the sun wanting to sweep you off your feet in a whirlwind romance and want to get married in a jiffy...?
I'm a romantic, you know that, but I'm also a realist. My gut tells me to be careful of things that seem to good to be true. I'm not saying don't go for him...I'm just saying, get to know him and his family first before you make a mistake you'd regret.
You've waited this long to find someone, don't be bullied into making a commitment like that before you're ready. Our insecurities are sometimes unfounded...but sometimes we have to trust our gut.
My thing is...a guy in such a hurry has been spurned badly by another girl...find out who and why.
As for the other guy....it's easy, his family has already judged you, and they're not into you...so why be into him....
I really hope my fears are unfounded Ruby dear...
shucks, blind date with his sis!
but u did see me, and u do remember me;)
hey there rubster, how goes it? hope you get well soon. i'd pick the sweet gentleman, london sound like a pratt. OK maybe a bit harsh. but sweet gentleman for president, or hubby anyway.
come to think of it, you sound like a female and much hotter version of sg.
:)
ZK: damn, why ? are you not gonna be in durban that wknd? oh no, now i wanna cry too :( :(
Single Guy: thanks for the advice... you right, there are lots of things taht i need to still consider, and yes, i ahve asked him why the hurry etc, and it turns out, that some girl pulled a "loser guy' move on him about a yr ago, so he doesnt want to go through another long-winded relationship. whuch makes snese, but in being cautious nonetheless, and not jumping the gun this time.. (hopefully) but i must admit, the good-guy, sweet guy, routine is a welcomed change after being treated like crap... lol, as for the spies, you know me so well, i have all my sources out on this case, but the guy that set me up, is a really good friend of mine, and his, so at least there is someone that knows him well...Re: the other guy, i think its easier to find someone attractive when they far away, and it all feels like a fantasy, but im sure if reality knocks on my door i.e. he comes to SA, i wont be as taken by him... so i have decided to distance myself from him!!
Bilal: of course i remember you... and i promise, the next time see you, blind date or not, i will come up and greet you :) :)
OH: sweetei? where have you disappeared to? you even missing from my friends list on facebook.. what gives?as for 'sweet gentleman for president" doidnt you read Sg comment/ i swar you guys always give the opposite advice, if you say jump, SG will say dont, cos you will fall and break your bones... but dont worry, i luv you guys anyway.. and if you think that Im alot like SG, u lucky you didnt join us for coffee and eclairs at Canal walk, i swaer, we were like two old women lamenting the stories of our lives... and u right, we are alot alike, in the sense that we both searching for perfection (like ourselves) but to our diappointment, none can be found.. (okay, i know im sounding really modest right now) but You said im Hot right??? heheheehe
LoL hey hon hope you're feeling better by the time you hit our shores. Still waiting for that call! and much as i love Ham, i have to go with SG on this one. Be absolutely sure before you make this commitment cos you deserve the best =)
now I fel left out:(
hallo there rubster, yeah been out acting all adult and lawyer these part few weeks, lost touch with blogging. but then kinky said mr harvester was so cool so i decided to dig him up again. yeah mr sweet should not rush you but he sounds the SHIT. uk boy sounds a little out there. and yes all the royalty wants you to be happy.
i thought of a mastercard advert. well just the tagline.
- reading about yourself on ruby's Blog,
priceless.
:). OK yellow happy pills are now my friends.
dew: aww hon, why are you feeling left out???
OH: lawyer hey? that sounds awesome, hope u having fun... so which blog did u resurrect? do i have to search for it? I thnak the royalty for looking out for my best interests!!! can i get some yellow happy pills plz? this weather is killing me :(
Hey ruby. Ooh,conjunctivitis sucks.i had it too-never again,hopefully.feel ur pain re specs. im still in dbn.think im coming back to jhb tue,but dunno. So maybe we'll meet in dbn after all. Im blog crawling after ages. Mr super sweet gentleman sounds great. Dnt listen to sg,whos just being cynical.i like a guy who knows what he wants immediately.im with fatima and dew regarding marriage. Really happy 4 u. Mwah!
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