True value of a wife

taken from The Muslim Woman mag. Volume 8, edition 1

I found this article really touching....

True Value of a Wife by Shaykh Abdullah Adhami

The Holy Prophet (SAW) said:

"the believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." (at-Tirmidhi)

By getting married, you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. from now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and your sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you, when you need help, she will do all she can for you;

When you haver a secret, she will keeo it, when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you; when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers, during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world, and you will be her whole world.

The best description that i personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Quranic verse which says; " They are your germents and you are their garments" (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 187)

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other becuase they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanantion for these most amazing of all human feelings is that; It is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala , "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature" (Surah An Nahl 16:72)

Only our Almighty Allah in His Infinite power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of spouses. in fact, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is remaning those wjo search ofr His sighns in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as he says in the Qur'an, " And among His signs is this, that He cretaed for you mates from amongst yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts; verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Ar Rum 30:21)

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honour their spouses until death do them part. love should never end and we do believe ther eis life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses. ( Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70)