If only
There is a guy... (as there always is ), but, this guy is amazingly handsome, stunningly sexy and has the loveliest pair of hands that i have ever seen on a guy. I have had a HUGE, CONSTANT crush on him all my life (even after all the other men that i have had the Bad luck of being attracted to, this guy is the standard by which all others are measured). He has always been the guy, and when i see him/ speak to him, my heart starts to race, my hands start feeling clammy and my heart skips a beat when he smiles at me...
now, he is a sort-of friend, my family know his family, His sister is my aunts best friend blah blah, all relations that need to be made have been made, except for the most imp. one....
His mother adores me, and my mum and i bumped into her while we were shopping on tuesday afternoon, and she and i got into a conversation about knitting.. now, this lady wants to knit a scarf, cos of the cold, and she asked me for advice about the color/ number of stitches she must make/ needles she must use.. everything, i might as well have said" Let me knit it for u " ... (btw, I do know about knitting, since my family is in the fabric and haberdashery business)
After the knitting seminar, my nephew decided to go with her to her shop, and so, we had to go back to their business to fetch him, (which was the perfect excuse to see THE GUY!!! )
Walking away from their shop, nephew in tow, mum says to me... If that woman had her way, u woulkd def. be married to her son by now... (sigh) if only !!!!
12 comments:
!!!this is so cute!!!!
i fervently hope and pray that The Guy gets a clue, and hands you the lifetime blingie.
it is too cute, ne saaleha!!!
awww!
it left me with smiles and a warm feeling after reading it.
perhaps someone needs to whisper into his ear a lil more about u.
hmmmm.....
sigh
girls.. i think we all kno it takes a million little whispers for guys to really gEt a clUe.
i hope a billion of them find their way to him and knock him out!!! im thinkin gale force wind and his gotta c starZ afterwards, wake up bietjie hangovered and think ONLY of RUBY..
it mite hurt but trust me its the ONLY way!!
u guys are so sweet, reading your comments put a smile on my face.
now, we just have to find a gale-force strong enough to knock him over hey...
if iv ever seen the winds of creativity, its in the soul of womankind!
so..if ur looking for a gale force wind, look inside you, girl! :)
btw, i tOtaLLy understand the concept of nice hanDs on a guy!
lol..
im all out of ideas, so, any suggestions will be welcome.. :) I mite need to use some long-lost feminine wiles hey ?
lol - well lets hope he gets the msg:)
my bro-in-law wants to phone him and tell him that im crazy bout him, cos im too "cautious" to do anything... he says I should just sms and ask him for coffee cos " a guy likes it when a girl shows interest.." i think thats just forward !!!
Ish: I wish i could just casually ask him, but he is so gorgeous, that when i talk to him, its just about normal stuff and i get all shy (which im not normally) and I blush, and act like a silly girl, so.. Asking him about a GF is not a likely option!!!
btw, did i mention that he looks like Arjun Rampal????
well, if you're too "cautious" to do anything yourself - and think that it would be too forward anyway - then go through your family. ask one of them to give him a hint, or if you want to be a bit more forceful, ask them to tell him you're interested (as your bro-in-law wants to do).
its a really challenging situation to be in - but one that can result in...(insert details of your dream here)...
in order for anything to happen, action has to be taken.
now, being the girl, you're ok to NOT make the 1st move - since the guy is usually expected to do that. so you're off the hook there. BUT, if you want anything to happen, you have to make the effort to get things going - whether its directly (yourself), or discretely (through someone else).
i can *kind of* relate to this situation a bit - so some of this comes from my own experince. something to keep in mind is that you don't want to look back years later with regret. you don't want to miss the opportunity while you've got it - because later in life, do you really want to be thinking about what "could have been", and how you "should have" taken the chance?
its your life, and your dream - you have to be brave. and if you have any worry about rejection - then just ignore it. don't stop yourself out of fear of being rejected. don't be held back by the possibility of what might happen. you can be overly cautious, and end up losing your chance...then you'll be left wondering about "what if"...leave the "what if", and go with the "what is" - the signs are good from your side, and his mother likes you (very good sign too, from his side :) , and you've got to decide if you'll let the chance slip away (because it will - and he'll find someone, if he's as good as you say he is) - or take action.
the thing to remember in all this is that if this is something you really want - if you believe he could be "the one" for you, then you have to do something about it. you could sit by and wait, or you could get things going even in an unembarassing way (i.e. someone else talking to him on your behalf)...remember, when we make dua and hope and wait for something, we should also make efforts of our own. we get what we strive for - so do your striving, and if its meant to be it will be :)
dreamlife: thank u for the exceptional advice... I hope that ur 'similar situation" had a happy ended. I think that i the main reason that i am yet to do something about this matter, is as u have suggested; fear of rejection... I have also been in this situation before, but, i was younger, and more daring at the time, and i just told the guy of the moment how i felt... ended up that he felt the same way, but lets just say "he wasn't the ONE" and it ended badly.. so, thats the bug issue with me .. of terrified of being in that place again, but, i guess i will always have the 'what if" if i dont get pro-active...so, thanks to ur advice, im gonna do something, via someone... soon!!
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