I miss you !!!

This feeble attempt of a poem is dedicated to 'Loser Guy'

I know i shouldn't, but i do,
I still keep thinking about you...
I know i shouldn't, but i do,
I still want to talk to you..

To tell you all about my day,
all the good and bad...
To hear your voice, see your handsome face,
you were able to make me smile
when i was feeling sad...

I miss getting an sms, or the HELLO on msn...
I miss your sweet "miss u, thinking of u " msgs the most,
I didn't think that i could feel so lost...

I know that there is some other woman, and you probably don't even think about me...
But, for a little while, U made me feel as though i was the most important person in your world, and I made you mine...

I Miss YOU !!!!

The Weekend

I was going to do a really long post, on my exciting weekend, but i have no time... going out for lunch with the crew at work, so, i will just do it briefly....

I went on a hot-air balloon ride ... it was awesome, and so romantic... i spent the sat. nite out with best friend #2 since best friend # 1 was "otherwise occupied" and since we are both recently single again, we went out 'on a date' with each other.... so, following the really cool balloon ride, we watched a sweet chic flick "its a boy/girl thing" (we didnt know what it was all about when we were buyin the tickets) but its was a nice, light comedy, more suitable for teenagers though!!! and then, we had Baglios Pistachio and Bacio Ice-cream yummmm....
on Sunday , had a Honours Class of Biochemistry reunion (yeah, its such a long time ago) that we can have a reunion... and its such fun, and we made such a big noise at JB's at Melrose Arch, that im sure the other ppl having lunch thought we were a crazy bunch!!! sad part , was taht from the 11 of us that studied together, only two us were single, the rest of the bunch came along with significant others... oh well!!!

gotta dash now ..

Wonderful world of TAG

New round on tag... this time courtesy of ://icanbuyhappiness.blogspot.com">Lady

The instructions are to answer every question with an answer of three words. No more, no less.

1. Where is your cell phone? - In my Pocket
2. Boyfriend/girlfriend? – No, single !!!
3. Hair? – Long, straight, Brown
4. Your mother? – the best cook
5. Your father? – The best dad
6. Your favorite item(s)? – Car,bed,radio
7. Your dream last night? –Cant remember
8. Your favorite drink? – Red Grapetiser
9. Your dream guy/girl? – Has been ordered!
10. The room you are in? – data analysis room
11. Your fear? – growing old alone
12. What do you want to be in 10 years? – Dr of Biochemistry
13. Who did you hang out with last night? - My best friend
14. What are you not? – A blonde bimbo
15. Are you in love? - thought i was!, but no!
16. One of your wish list items? – A prada boot
17. What time is it? – way past lunchtime!
18. The last thing you did? – fetched liquid nitrogen (im at work okay )
19. What are you wearing? – Jeans, shirt, lab-coat
20. Your favorite book? – Taj Mahal
21. The last thing you ate? - toasted cheese n tomato
22. Your life? – could be better
23. Your mood? – biopolar- sad n happy
24. Your friends? – make me smile
25. What are you thinking about right now? - Saturday night out
26. What are you doing at this moment? - Answering this tag
27. Your summer? – Is always great
28. Your relationship status? - Single-25, JHB
29. What is on your TV screen? – no TV here
30. When is the last time you laughed? – about an hour ago

I Tag:

http://concerningmjk.blogspot.com">MJ
Dreamlife
fatima
saaleha
K-Man
single guy CT
R

What every Kiss means...

I think this so much of BS... but anyways:

~Kiss on the stomach = Im ready
~Kiss on the Forehead = "i hope we're together forever"
~Kiss on the Ear = Your my everything
~Kiss on the Cheek = "We're friends"
~Kiss on the Hand = "I adore you"
~Kiss on the Neck = "we belong together"
~Kiss on the Shoulder = "I want you"
~Kiss on the Lips = I like you"

What the gesture means...
~Holding Hands = "we definitely like each other"
~Slap on the Butt = "That's mine"
~Holding on tight = "i don't want to let go"
~Looking into each other's Eyes = "i just plain like you"
~Playing with Hair = "Tell me you love me"
~Arms around the Waist = "I like you too much to let go"
~Laughing while Kissing = "I am completely comfortable with you"

--Advice-- Dont ask for a kiss, take one. If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you're definitely in Love.

Random Thoughts

Those of you that have been reading my posts over the last two weeks know what I has been happennine regarding "the Guy" ... well, I have been thinking alot, and I have realised taht I am very proud of myself and the way that i have handled the entire situation. I have not over-reacted (as some ppl have done in similiar instances) and I dont think that im bordering on the suicidal/pyschotic etc.
The thing is, I have realised that my chosen career may be my downfall; you see, since i am scientist, i tend to overanalyze even the slightest thing, and i need a reason and explaination for every.. little.. atomic-sized thing said or done... and that is why I am always going over conversations and meetings etc. trying to get it from evry angle.. but, sometimes, tangible answers are not possible and i all my wisdom I have accepted the fact that he was just "a loser" and didn't deserve me, or he would have still been around, and i am sure that Allah in his infinite wisdom will bestow upon me something bigger and better in the future( hopefully not too distant future.. like when im 35 or something!)....

I was telling my brother about the situation and he looked and me and said: I would tell you that everything happens for a reason, but since you are a scientist, i will try and putting it in your language... For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction" i stared at him blankly, cos i was sure if he meant my action was wrong/The loser's action was wrong/ the entire situation was wrong???? and he wouldnt elaborate either... He just told me not to be sad...

so, coming to more exciting news....
I am going on a holiday !!!! YAY!!!
Kulula had a special running last thursday and friday, and i managed to get myself a return flight to Cape Town for only R400.... Its still a while away, Im flying down on the 9th of May(wed.) until the 15th(tues) ... initially, i planned on going only for the wknd, but somehow extended it to almost a week... so, im not quite sure what im gonna be doing all those days, (any CT bloggers want to meet up for coffee/lunch plz mail me) since the friend whose place that i will be at, will be at work during the day in any case... but, i think i need a break, and it also serves as motivation for me to work really hard( considering all the public holidays in April) so that i at least have some sort of results to show to my supervisor as proof before i ask her (very sweetly) for a week's leave...

as for this weekend, I have so many social happenings, im going to be exhuasted come mondya morning( normally my wknd consists of a movie and some shopping ) but, this evening, im meant to be going to the pro20 finals (weather permitting) cos its raining today, then tomorrow evening is a "campus reunion " braai, with all my old pals that have now moved into the "real world' (and im still living the student life" as they put it... ) and sunday, i am attending a wedding of a freind taht was at campus with me, in the east rand, and then i have to rush and drive all the way to Sandton, for a bridal-shower at three... (theme of the shower is High tea.. so entry only if you have gloves and a hat ) going to be soo cool! so, im so glad that i have interesting things to do this wknd...

Tag ...

I have been tagged by Dreamlife… Five things you don’t know about me

1) I am a gentle soul, and avoid confrontations of any sort, at all costs (prob the reason why people think they can walk all over me)
2) I love sushi, and have it at least twice a week… (I can hear the resounding yucks),I love eating ice-cream and can have some for breakfast lunch and supper, and my favourite holiday destination only has one requirement : the beach! (I know, typical inlander..)
3) I am a lazy bum when it comes to exercising, and don’t go to gym or do any form of exercise, but Im constantly stressed out, so, that my way of losing weight!
4) If you are my friend, and need help, I will do anything in my power to help you, and I make the effort to keep in contact with friends from years gone by… and if someone has done something for me, you will be in my good graces forever but If anyone hurts me I will forgive, but never forget and will cut ties with that person for life!
5) I love going to amusement parks like Gold Reef City, and acting like a complete kid and sitting on all the rides etc. and my best friend and I used to use the excuse of going to the zoo lake for walks on a Sunday morning, spend about half an hour sitting on the swings acting like kids, and then going for a not so healthy breakfast.

I tag MJ
R
K-Man
Safunlimited
LAdy

Ruby's Rules

Following recent events regarding “The Guy” and the end of whatever the “shit” you could call it….. Relationship/friendship/sinking ship….. I have sat down, and come up with the following rules…. Which, I am planning on presenting to the next sorrowful bastard that comes my way… And, him he does not like these “rules” he can go lump himself, along with any other jerk face…. And before anyone says ‘ruby, you are being too harsh” let me just say, im fed up now, and these rules are Mine, and Mine alone, and any Man, who is Man enough should accept them…

Right, so the plan is that if I meet someone (through whichever medium, be it family, friends, or just bumping into him at the shopping mall…. (Yeah right!) I will either have a hard-copy of these rules, or I will email/fax/post him a copy as soon as possible…. (If I feel that he is worthy of getting these rules!!!!)

Okay, so here are RUBY’S RULES ….

1) I don’t have time to waste on meaningless friendships, whereby the one party doesn’t even want to call it as such, therefore, I will not speak to any person having recently being acquainted, for longer than a period of ONE month… If the party in question is from a foreign land i.e. not JHB, than this period MAY be extended to six weeks…. But no longer…
Following the given time period, the relationship/friendship WILL be given a definite title…. And a detailed explanation of where the party foresees this “arrangement” heading!

2) If you are looking for a friend/buddy ‘ol pal… sorry, but try looking somewhere else, I do not agree to Meeting random people for the fun of extending my social circle, it’s big enough as is, with more meaningful friends…. So, following the first meet, the person will have three options (sort of like the show deal or no deal) where he will have the chance to choose… Yes, Maybe or No… if it is a Yes or Maybe from both of us, then the month rule will come into practice, but, if it’s a No from either side, that will be it, and we will part ways…
3) Within the trial month, do not expect ANY sort of physical contact. If I feel like holding your hand/kiss hello or goodbye on the cheek, I will do it, but you cannot!!!! It’s MY CALL…
4) I will only agree to meet you “secretly” for the stated period of one month. Following this, if the person in question feels that this situation is heading somewhere (besides down the drain) I would like to be informed of the direction, and the person will then be required to meet my family (all 7 members at once!) (This would be the ultimate test since my brother and brother –in-law together would scare anyone), and meet my friends immediately.
5) I would also expect to meet the person’s family at this time, so, that I am a ‘known entity”, not just some vague being!
6) I do not meet random people, so, I would like to once again, emphasize… Your intention has got to be made crystal clear….
7) If you do show an interest, I expect “lots” of attention…. I do not appreciate being ignored, and although I have never been the whiny, nag type before, I will expect at least two calls a day… with detailed description of what your day has been like…
8) If you do not show a vested interest in me, my life and my work, and you feel that your job/life is more important, then, you had better leave right now!
9) I will not be a second-best, so, if there are ANY other girls that you are seeing/considering/ chatting to/ doing a samoosa run with/ then consider this ‘over’. If you say “there is no-one’ I will take this as an admission that there IS another girl and until such time that sources (and I HAVE sources all-over) find out otherwise, I will believe that there is in fact another girl and MAY just show you the door… since I expect total honesty regarding such girls…
10) I need “my time” as well, so, in the initial stages, 1-2 times a week is all I will make time for i.e. in the allocated month, we will only meet for a max of 8 times IF both parties are interested!
11) If you are an only child, and feel that the world and I owe you for your lack of self-esteem and boring life, then I apologize, and my advise is go forth and do a “brangelina” ADOPT A SIBLING , cos I don’t give a flying f***!!!
12) If you are
25-28 yrs old, and suffering from Quarter life Crisis--- GOODBYE!
28-30 yrs old and dreading the new decade of your life and don’t know where you at --- (look under your bed) and GOODBYE
30-34 yrs old and still not sure what you want, I can’t help you, you probably going to become senile and if by now you don’t know, im sorry to be the one to tell you, that you never going to know either…. GOODBYE!
Older than 34--- sorry, that’s way over the hill, and you need not apply!!!

I will probably think of some other rules soon, and may add them on at a later stage!!! (Anyone with other rules is welcome to add them!)

Disclaimer: I know that these rules my make me seem like a jaded, crazy bitch, but it’s MY rules, so negative and snide comments will not be taken note …

Here we go again!!!

Approx reading time: 4 minutes

Im sure everyone has heard of 94.7 Highveld , the coolest radio station in SA... (those ppl that don't live in jhb, will disagree i know!) well, every morning on the Rude Awakening, they have the homework hotline, and on monday a 8 yr old kid wanted to know : How come tears come out of our eyes when we cry?

This was the reply:
Tears flow from our eyes when we cry because they contain chemicals and hormones produced by our bodies.
When we become upset, our brains and bodies overreact and work overtime by producing chemicals and hormones.
Crying helps eliminate these extra chemicals that we don't need.
The chemicals and hormones disappear from our body through the form of tears. As our tears flow, they sooth our sadness or distress by withdrawing these chemical agents.
That is why many people feel calmer or more refreshed after crying--because the tears get rid of these hormones that are produced when we are sad, happy, or distressed.

I however, am going to have to disagree this the last statement, about feeling better and refreshed after a cry... Cos once i start crying, i cant seem to stop, and when i do eventually stop crying, i feel even more miserable than before... does anyone else feel the same way?

im sure you guys are wondering what the hell im going on about... and im getting to a point i promise... see, on friday, it was six months since 'The Guy ' and i met, and i had promised myself, that i would ask him what his thought on our relationship were, are this milestone... so, i built up my courage, and since i didnt speak to him on sat, i asked him on sunday .....and lets jussay.. i didnt get the response that i was looking for...

To summarize briefly, he doesnt feel as though he is in a relationship, and as though im his girlfriend etc, since we so far away, and he doesnt get to see me often (is that my fault) and he doesnt think that a relationship can work in this way... (i am of the thought, that you can make it work if u want it to) and also, since we dont spend much time together, he feels as though he is alone anyway, and y couldnt we have just met when he was still in jhb? to which i replied that we didnt, we met knowong that there was this distance between us, and it wasnt an issue before, so y make it one now?... so, i told him, if he is trying to break-up with me in a subtle way, he must just say so, and not come up with such sad excuses, so, he then said that he doesnt really know waht to do, but he doenst think we know each other well enough to commit (hello.... we have been chatting to each other everyday for 6 freaking months) and he doesnt expect me to wait till he figures his screwed up mind out, so if i do get a better option, or meet someone else, i should keep my options open (BS i tell u) but, in the same breath he says that he doesnt think we can be just freinds, but we shouldnt say we in a relationship... so, i told him that it seems as though he is afraid of commitment, since everything is hunky-dory but the minute i ask about the future, he gets all psycho, (" u in my space " crazy) and i have enough friends and i dont need anymore, thank u very much!!!!
so, for two nights we had the same conversations, where he feels taht if you have to make an effort to even see the person, then its not right, because he feels that things are jsut supposed to fall into place, which i dont agree with, cos i think if u sit on your ass and wiat for things to fall out from the sky, you gonna be waiting a really long time.....

Then the confused soul says, that he is happy with me since we met, becuase he feels as though im the female version of him, we talk and think and even do the same things, and we just fit so well together, but 'i dont know" !!!! I was so frustrated i tell u , cos every two minuts, he said "i dont know" ..... so, eventually, i got a headache from thinking about this whole thing and ended the conv, but he said 'spk to u tom" to which i replied, no, i dont have the time/ebergy to spk to my friends everyday, so i wont spk to u tom.... and he just sighed.... and i havent heard from him since !!!!

so now, im all upset, and dont know what to think or do anymore... my one best friend thinks he is the biggest loser under the sun and i should just leave it, and other friend thinks maybe he just needs to miss me , and then he will realise what he is losing out on... but i donty have the energy to even think anymore... this whole relationship thing sucks... big time, and i think as we get older, we just looks for things to complicate, as though life isnt tough enough already.. but what im dreading the most form all this, is finding myself single aagin, and being set-up on tsunami-style disaster dates once again, in the near future!!!!

if anyone is gonna comment, please i dont need to feel any crappier, so, please refrain from any "i told u so" and other negative comments directed towards me in this whole situation is ... cos i am not at fault, and i did not ask to be hurt once again!!!

Im sure everyone has heard of 94.7 Highveld , the coolest radio station in SA... (those ppl that don't live in jhb, will disagree i know!) well, every morning on the Rude Awakening, they have the homework hotline, and on monday a 8 yr old kid wanted to know : How come tears come out of our eyes when we cry?

This was the reply:
Tears flow from our eyes when we cry because they contain chemicals and hormones produced by our bodies.
When we become upset, our brains and bodies overreact and work overtime by producing chemicals and hormones.
Crying helps eliminate these extra chemicals that we don't need.
The chemicals and hormones disappear from our body through the form of tears. As our tears flow, they sooth our sadness or distress by withdrawing these chemical agents.
That is why many people feel calmer or more refreshed after crying--because the tears get rid of these hormones that are produced when we are sad, happy, or distressed.

I however, am going to have to disagree this the last statement, about feeling better and refreshed after a cry... Cos once i start crying, i cant seem to stop, and when i do eventually stop crying, i feel even more miserable than before... does anyone else feel the same way?

im sure you guys are wondering what the hell im going on about... and im getting to a point i promise... see, on friday, it was six months since 'The Guy ' and i met, and i had promised myself, that i would ask him what his thought on our relationship were, are this milestone... so, i built up my courage, and since i didnt speak to him on sat, i asked him on sunday .....and lets jussay.. i didnt get the response that i was looking for...

To summarize briefly, he doesnt feel as though he is in a relationship, and as though im his girlfriend etc, since we so far away, and he doesnt get to see me often (is that my fault) and he doesnt think that a relationship can work in this way... (i am of the thought, that you can make it work if u want it to) and also, since we dont spend much time together, he feels as though he is alone anyway, and y couldnt we have just met when he was still in jhb? to which i replied that we didnt, we met knowong that there was this distance between us, and it wasnt an issue before, so y make it one now?... so, i told him, if he is trying to break-up with me in a subtle way, he must just say so, and not come up with such sad excuses, so, he then said that he doesnt really know waht to do, but he doenst think we know each other well enough to commit (hello.... we have been chatting to each other everyday for 6 freaking months) and he doesnt expect me to wait till he figures his screwed up mind out, so if i do get a better option, or meet someone else, i should keep my options open (BS i tell u) but, in the same breath he says that he doesnt think we can be just freinds, but we shouldnt say we in a relationship... so, i told him that it seems as though he is afraid of commitment, since everything is hunky-dory but the minute i ask about the future, he gets all psycho, (" u in my space " crazy) and i have enough friends and i dont need anymore, thank u very much!!!!
so, for two nights we had the same conversations, where he feels taht if you have to make an effort to even see the person, then its not right, because he feels that things are jsut supposed to fall into place, which i dont agree with, cos i think if u sit on your ass and wiat for things to fall out from the sky, you gonna be waiting a really long time.....

Then the confused soul says, that he is happy with me since we met, becuase he feels a sthough im the female version of him, we talk and think and even do the same things, and we just fit so well together, but 'i dont know" !!!! I was so frustrated i tell u , cos every two minuts, he said "i dont know" ..... so, eventually, i got a headache from thinking about this whole thing and ended the conv, but he said 'spk to u tom" to which i replied, no, i dont have the time/ebergy to spk to my friends everyday, so i wont spk to u tom.... and he just sighed.... and i havent heard from him since !!!!

so now, im all upset, and dont know what to think or do anymore... my one best friend thinks he is the biggest loser under the sun and i should just leave it, and other friend thinks maybe he just needs to miss me , and then he will realise what he is losing out on... but i donty have the energy to even think anymore... this whole relationship thing sucks... big time, and i think as we get older, we just looks for things to complicate, as though life isnt tough enough already.. but what im dreading the most form all this, is finding myself single aagin, and being set-up on tsunami-style disaster dates once again, in the near future!!!!

if anyone is gonna comment, please i dont need to feel any crappier, so, please refrain from any "i told u so" and other negative comments directed towards me in this whole situation is ... cos i am not at fault, and i did not ask to be hurt once again!!!

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone.... Hope that you all have an awesomely stunning day, and that special person in our life makes you feel like your worth the million that are worth!!! (not just today, but everyday!)

And to all the single guys and gals.... An extra special wish, may Cupid shoot his arrow straight into your soul-mate's heart, and may you find the love of your life, who will cherish and adore you ...

True value of a wife

taken from The Muslim Woman mag. Volume 8, edition 1

I found this article really touching....

True Value of a Wife by Shaykh Abdullah Adhami

The Holy Prophet (SAW) said:

"the believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." (at-Tirmidhi)

By getting married, you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. from now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and your sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you, when you need help, she will do all she can for you;

When you haver a secret, she will keeo it, when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you; when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers, during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world, and you will be her whole world.

The best description that i personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Quranic verse which says; " They are your germents and you are their garments" (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 187)

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other becuase they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanantion for these most amazing of all human feelings is that; It is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala , "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature" (Surah An Nahl 16:72)

Only our Almighty Allah in His Infinite power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of spouses. in fact, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is remaning those wjo search ofr His sighns in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as he says in the Qur'an, " And among His signs is this, that He cretaed for you mates from amongst yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts; verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Ar Rum 30:21)

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honour their spouses until death do them part. love should never end and we do believe ther eis life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses. ( Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70)

Something for the ladies

got this email today.. had such a laugh !

A WOMAN'S HEART IS LIKE A CIRCUS

There is always room for another clown...



WHAT CAN ONE GIVE TO A MAN WHO THINKS HE HAS IT ALL?

A woman to show him how it all works!



WHY DO BLACK WIDOW SPIDERS KILL THE MALE AFTER COPULATION?

To stop the loud snoring even before it starts



WHY DO MEN LIKE TO MARRY VIRGINS?

Because they cannot stand criticism...



WHAT DO YOU CALL AN INTERESTING MAN WHERE YOU LIVE?

A tourist



WHY DID GOD CREATE MEN?

Because vibrators cannot mow the lawn...



WHAT DO CLITORIS, ANNIVERSARIES AND THE TOILET BOWL HAVE IN COMMON?

Men miss them all!



WHY DO SO MANY WOMEN FAKE ORGASM?

Because men fake foreplay...



WHY IS IT THAT ONLY 10% OF MEN GO TO HEAVEN

If all men went to heaven it would simply be hell!



WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND PIGS?

Pigs do not turn into men after drinking!





WHY ARE MEN IN BED LIKE MICROWAVE FOOD?

After 30 seconds they are both done!



WHAT DISEASE PARALYSES WOMEN FROM THE WASTE DOWN?

Marriage.



WHY DO MEN HAVE A CLEAN CONSCIENCE?

Because they never use it.



WHY DID GOD FIRST CREATE MAN AND THEN CREATED WOMAN?

Because experiments are first done on animals before applying them to humans



WHY DO MEN LOVE INTELLIGENT WOMEN?

Because opposites attract



WHAT IS THE SMALLEST BOOK IN THE WORLD?

"Everything that men know about women"



WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND FRUIT?

Fruit eventually gets ripe.....



WHY ARE BATTERIES BETTER THAN MEN?

At least they have a positive side...

WHY IS IT NOT POSSIBLE FOR A MAN TO HAVE A GOOD CHARACTER AND BE INTELLIGENT

AT THE SAME TIME?
If that were the case he would be a woman...



WHAT DID GOD SAY AFTER HE CREATED MAN?

I can perfect this creature....



WHY ARE MILLIONS OF SPERMS NEEDED TO FERTILIZE ONE SINGLE EGG?

Because sperms are male and refuse to ask for directions....



WHEN DOES A MAN LOOSE 90% OF HIS INTELLIGENCE?

When he becomes a widow...



WHEN DOES A MAN LOOSE THE REMAINING 10%?

When his dog dies...

another round of confusion!!

update: the whole hanging up story has been kinda sorted out, but 'Mr arrogant' told me that i should know "he will never call a person that hangs up on him back, ever" .. so, i said sorry, i didn't know you were so over-sensitive about such a trivial thing, and i will never hung up again.. but now he has another stupid issue.. i swear, its like he is digging for things to argue about, only difference is that he does argue straight out, he just goes into silent mode, and i cant do that, i have to sort any issue out straight away..
new issue:(via sms, wed. nite)

Him: tell me, am i holding you back?
Me: what do u mean?
Him: we don't really discuss our 'friendship" and i know us being set-up like we were means there is only one intention and i haven't committed to anything, so, is there any other guy? other proposals?
Me: (WTF) there will always be other ppl trying to intro. me to someone, but i don't think it would be fair to me, you or the third person, to consider, i don't do the "line the guys up thing"
Him: what do u mean you, me and them?
Me: i wont just meet anyone right now, be cos i don't want to meet anyone else..
Him: ok, i just don't want to think that i am holding you back, leading you on or preventing you from moving onto greener pastures.. so to speak.
Me: i think we need to talk about this
Him: (avoiding nicely) its late, we will chat tom.. on msn
yesterday, on msn during the day.. he is acting like nothing was wrong, so i asked "are you goinh to explain the smses? and he said" it was straightforward, no hidden meanings?.. i asked if we could discuss it over the phone rather and he said okay, later or tonight,, but its now Fri. morn. and he hasn't called! so now.. I'm done, cant take being ignored , I didn't do anything wrong, so if he has an issue, or all these thoughts floating in head, and he doesnt want to dicuss it, he can deal with it, and call me when he has sorted his screwed up head out!!!

btw, My neighbour wants to "set-up' a meeting for me for some guy that is "very nice, and a really good guy" so, maybe i should agree!!

The world's most stunning twins

Anyone know where i can find either one of them...totally yummy...

hahahahahahahaha..

I know its dumb, but I need the humour, A "very serious" post regarding my life and happenings, will follow shortly (later today or tomorrow) right now i need chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate!!

Im getting a bit frustrated with "the guy " now...
here's the story why, so, you decide if I'm being a psycho bitch and over-reacting... Or maybe he is just having a really bad case of PMS.. but, the thing is, i am a LEO, and because i am a Leo, i constantly need attention, okay, so i may be just using my star-sign a san excuse, but, i hate being ignored.. even if it was my fault that he is now ignoring me!
We were having a chat on Friday evening while he was waiting for his friend to go out for supper, and he mentioned something that is a constant bother to my sanity, so, i acted as though i was upset, and said "okay then, Bye'.. and ended the call, thinking that he would be sweet and call me back... but, the jerk didn't.. so i sent an sms and said "i was joking, you're supposed to call back.." NO REPLY... Come Saturday, and still no message or call so i smsed and he replied immediately, so i thought he wasn't upset anymore, but me being a complete stress-aholic, i told him to that i needed to tell him something so will he please call me when he has a few minutes to spare (I'm not being a cheap-skate) and i was planning on apologising to him when he did call.. but once again he didn't.. the whole evening! On Sunday, my family and I had to go to a small farm-town where my mum's side of the family live (the north-west region), so, was sitting and chatting with all my family, and when i checked my phone, lo-and-behold, an sms from HIM... completely normal, but, i was busy so didn't get a chance to reply (i know, sad excuse but you know how it is when you with family) and we got home really late, had two reports to finish for Monday morning for meetings with my supervisor so finally got down to replying his message late morning... which he didn't reply.. then, Found out that I'm getting my car back form the panel-beaters this week, so, in my excitement, I sent him an sms to tell him the good news.. No REPLY ! Later yesterday evening, I went to best Friend (shakeera's) house for supper since she left for Cape Town today. She saw how upset i was, so she suggested i call him (this was about 6 pm) but .. you guessed it NO REPLY ... (by now, i was fuming i tell you...so, got home at about half nine, and sent and sent another message... which he replied .. this is how the message conversation went:
Me: Hi are u okay or is something wrong? haven't spoken to you in a while
him: I'm OK.. U OK? ( Ruby thinks :WTF? )
Me: I'm OK,tried calling you earlier
Him: oh ( waste of an sms i tell you !)
Him: just a bit busy dealing with some urgent work issues
Me: okay, didn't you get my missed calls?
him: I was swapping between phones... (never stopped you from calling before did it?)
and that was the end of our conversation... and it is now 4pm the next day, and i ha vent heard a word from him... so, i think i should be concerned right? i mean, you can be busy, but can you have such urgent work, that you don't even sms or call your girlfriend to find out if she is alive? or if the aliens didn't abduct her in the middle of the night?? or am I being the nagging girlfriend? It's not like i call him the entire day or anything....

Anywayz, onto worst things that have happened to me today: My experiment did not work.. I am so freaking fed up with the bloody dumb-ass plants, its as if they have a vendetta against me.. first they don't grow, when they eventually grow, they don't have any RNA (protein-making genes) , when they have RNA, there isn't enough to produce mRNA ... *** almost pulling my hair out*** I'm so so so sick and tired of all this Shite!!!!

As for Blogger Beta- I was forced into changing over.. yep, i was one of the unlucky ones that had the automatic transfer done to my blog over the holidays, so, since seeing that i got the new version, i decided to accept the new template... and what do you know.. everything disappeared.. My stat counter, My technorati button, My Quote of the day, everything.. but the crappiest part is that my links are no longer working, and try as I may, I can't seem to get it right, so, Please, I appeal to anyone who may have an idea how to sort this mess out to please, please help me!!!

Interesting read...

SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP



If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If
you are married, share it with your spouse or other
married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb
states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,
and after you marry, close one eye."


Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone
, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance,
pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you
blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't
fool yourself that you can change someone or that what
you see as faults aren't really important. Once you
decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws,
vulnerary-abilities, pet peeves, and differences will
become more obvious.


If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow
and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not
let every little thing bother you. You and your mate
have many different expectations, emotional needs,
values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two
unique individual children of God who have decided to
share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but
are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the
best in each other?


Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do
you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to
the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past
hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone
to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone
love you or make someone stay. If you develop
self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you
won't find yourself making someone else responsible for
your happiness or responsible for your pain.


Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking
status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons
to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship
strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of
humour, sharing household tasks, some getaway time
without business or children and daily exchanges (a
meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).


Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice
email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is
important. Grow together, not away from each other,
giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't
always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging
and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one
another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect
his or her parents regardless.


Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities
are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment,
withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace
the passion.

song of the day !

Im really, really pissed of with "the GUy" but, he doesnt know it, because he hasnt bothered to call me since yesterday!!

So, my title song for today is : I don't need a man by Pussycat Dolls...

I just dont give a flying piece of crap !!!!

Approx. reading time 3 minutes

I was reading the lastest entry on dreamlife's blog and i realised that im feeling the same..
I Got back to campus last monday, and everything was all set for me to start with my experiments, but somehow i just cant down to doing them. i spent most of last week just catching up with everyone in the lab, had long lunches everyday and the worst part is that since my car is still being fixed, i have to wait to be fetched in the evening, but, instead of being productive and writing up my thesis, or doing an experiment i just sit on the internet... then, I pysched myself up over the wknd, and planned on starting proper work on monday, but come monday morning, the weather was really crap, gloomy and dull and my supervisor always says "dont start an exp. when you feeling down" because you sure you make a hash of it.. so, that was my excuse for the day.. but, now its wednesday and i still havent started with anything, and tom. is going to be too late, since i need 3 consecutive days to do the exp. so,i have wasted another week.. a week which i know i cannot afford to waste since i have to have everything (which is a LOT of stuff) done by april but right now, i just-dont-give-a-shit !!! and i have no idea how to motivate myself.. I need someone to maybe electrocute my brain into working again, so that i can feel like doing something, but right now all i wnat to do is run as far away from this place as i possibly can.. Anyone have some free accomodation for me plz? or want to join me on a desertes island where no-one knows how to get hold us?

Guy advice needed...

so, in september i met a guy,the full story (link under repair)
He does not live in jhb, and this is starting to become a bit of an issue for me. He doesnt really realise it, and i know he is also a busy guy with his job and stuff, but i only see him once a month.. and i dont think that is enough time .. really, okay, i know that i speak to him daily over the phone, and maybe im just being a demanding girl, but, there are stuff that you can only talk about when you with the person, face-to-face, not over a bad vodacom line ... And when he does come to Jhb, there is always a million stuff to get done in the 2/3 days that he is here, and if he is here for work, thats even less free time, and how much can you discuss in the 5 hours that you have...

before i go off on an irrelevant tangent, this is my big issue..

Ineed to know what his intentions towards me /us are? if he sees this relationship going anywhere? and if yes, is it in the general direction to an altar anytime in this decade? or before i turn 30.. by then he will be 38, and thats too long...
the thing is, I have never really had a serious, long-term boyfriend, and i dont want one for 1/2/3 years on end, and after all the jerks taht i have been set-up with the last 2 years, he is the most compatible guy that i have met, and i just need to know what his story is before i fall crazy, stupid in love with him and get myself hurt ... (if im not in love with him already)

so, my question to you guys is: is there a specific time that i am supposed to wait before i ask him? and do i do it over the phone or sms, or do i wait for his next visit.. see, i was pysching myself up to ask him this coming wknd, cos he was supposed to come to jhb, but now he has some work to do, and may only be able to come the following weekend.. by that weekend, it will be five months since we've met, so, should i ask him then? or do I wait till six months..

i dont know, im very confused, some of my friends advised me to ask him over the phone, but, i think it would be better in person, because i can then see his facial expression (look of horror/surprise) but then if its a bad answer I dont know how i will react...

in any case, please , any comment on this matter will be much appreciated..